AS Girlfriend has no interest in sex, please help

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Both courtesy and reason would be required for the above. In my case, they did not worry about it. Although they were not usually pressurizing either, emotional intimacy or physical pleasure in the other barely occurred to them. They were self-focused and anxious about performance, as though it were a test. In their presence, even the good ones, I would feel like an object, which was a turn off. They also could not understand the concept of gender identity or really believe in mine. Although I was the autist, they too did not understand emotional intimacy and reciprocation.

This is just a different opinion. Maybe the other girls who slept with you soon did it because they were pressured by society, media, and men. Whereas a person with AS is not likely to make decisions based on those reasons or what may or may not be socially acceptable in a relationship. She is going to make decisions based on her own conclusions. As a girl with AS I find 4 months to be a very short amount of time. It takes me 4 months just to consider a new person my friend. If she thinks you are comparing her to other girls she may feel a lot more reluctant to talk about it because she knows she is very different and you may not understand.

I know.

But I still think that there is no need to rush into that for a realtionship. Surely there should be more about one that would keep a partner with them. What happens if one party develops sexual problems later in life. Is the relationship over or the marriage ended just because sex is no longer available?

Well bad news, after 5 months of this and her becoming very disrespectful of me I broke up with her.

That's good. I'm sure you couldn't have loved her, as true love is not one person wanting to have sex if the other isn't ready.

Disrespectful because she wouldn't put out?

Or some other reason?

I would take it he meant "5 months of this" meaning she wouldn't put out for him. Good for her! All he seems interested in was sex anyway and they did have a 10 year age different. He at least could have respected her not wanting to have sex with him.