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11 Oct 2009, 1:08 pm

Spokane_Girl wrote:



I'll move on when I have a real baby.


I didn't really come to terms with it myself until I did to be honest. Now I grieve, but then I was just devastated without coming to terms with it.



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11 Oct 2009, 1:53 pm

I was told to carry a doll, so I did for a week. I found this to be very disturbing because it just reminded me of the child I lost.



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11 Oct 2009, 4:32 pm

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I didn't, and I was forced to have sex that day, "because it would make us closer".. bleh, out of that relationship now. If I had gone full term, the child would be 3 1/2. I do think about it every day, especially now I really want children. But in a way I'm glad it happened, because I couldn't forgive myself for bringing a child up in an abusive household.

Sorry, rambling.

:cry: What a nasty man I happy you found your way out of that relationship.



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12 Oct 2009, 9:24 pm

Yeah.. if anything, it pushed us apart. After that, I lost all respect and trust. Which was a good thing, it turned out, because it only took me another year to dump his ass. If it hadn't happened I'd probably still be with him, isolated and black & blue. Heh. I get a lot of mixed emotions about my miscarriage.


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20 Oct 2009, 5:09 am

I bought a soft toy called 'Puppy' that I cuddled in bed and carried around (discretely in my bag). After a year or so I gave him to my only nephew who wanted a dog but because of practicalities wasn't able to have one. Robert used to take him everywhere with him until he nearly got left behind on a visit to the park and then Puppy was resrticted to the house. He STILL brings Puppy to visit me!



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21 Oct 2009, 12:07 pm

That's adorable!
What a nice nephew!



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21 Oct 2009, 2:32 pm

I suffered a miscarriage last February and I tried not to dwell on it and it was hard for awhile going to the store and walking past the baby section, but now I honestly look at it as a blessing in disguise because I was only 20 years-old, still in college, and not ready for a kid emotionally or financially and me and my now ex who was my boyfriend at the time ended up breaking up and I am just glad that I am not saddled to him or his crazy family eternally with a child.

I believe everything happens for a reason and I know I will have a family of my own someday, but right now it isn't my time because I would like to have a career first and be stable and own my own home and have a husband so I can enjoy pregnancy to the fullest and not worrying about how I am going to make ends meet with bills and a baby at such a young age. I guess my biggest thing is being completely ready and being fully financially stable and independent and being able to provide for my children the best that I can offer them and at 20 there was no way I could honestly provide all that I would want to give them on my own as a teen mother.