Anyone else not feel like a woman?

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I was a girl child but always thought of myself as a boy. In high school I was what they called a tomboy but didn't identify myself as anything. In senior high school boys started asking if I was a boy or girl so I grew my hair to shut them up. At the junior high prom I wore a skirt and felt like an idiot, never went to another party after that. In school I was faster and stronger than my male peers.

Basically, as an adult, I tried fitting into religious and social norms of good christian girl, good christian wife, avoiding smearing the family name, until it all fell apart and I became a lesbian wiccan.

I worked on boats and ships and started assimilating with the blokes until they stopped treating me with even a modicum of respect. Out of spite for men I started calling myself a woman in a man's world and retreated into the safety of my shell until that identity also fell apart.

But after it's all said and done, I'm asexual. I'm neither man or woman. Nor sexually attracted to either. I no longer conform to society's expectations of a woman.

I don't feel like a woman. I don't even feel like a human.

I'm 27 and still refer to myself as a girl.

Sometimes, when others describe me or tell about me in some way, they say 27 year old woman (the Norwegian equivalent), and I always find that strange and have to do a double take, heheh..

I also seem to think of myself as younger than I am, not only because all other "women" my age act and look older than me, but because they are generally more progressed in life (married, living on their own, more "grown up" jobs, etc).

I got a shock this summer, when talking to my mom I admittet that I kinda liked a single, male neighbor of ours, but felt people might think he was to old for me, since he was nearly 40. (actually, he is 41, I found out later, but I digress..)
My mom looked at me and exclaimed "Honestly Tina, you ARE actually soon in your thirties yourself!"

Yeah, thank you SO much for reminding me, mom... *sarcasm*

Anyway, not only is the age thing weird, I also feel more like a boy than a girl, I've always joked about being "a gay boy in a girl's body".

Though I'm physically a woman, I can't seem to associate myself with the female gender. It just has so many stereotypical characteristics that don't match me. I feel more like some kind of genderless wonder.