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17 Sep 2010, 7:59 pm

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23 Sep 2010, 9:15 am

I am myself havent experienced it yet, but on the other board(family board) there are also many women who can't breastfeed because of various issues .Also I have heard nobody yet on there who was a natural from the beginning without any problems at all.



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24 Sep 2010, 9:21 am

pandorazmtbox wrote:
Okay, I'm seeing boobie polls and sex and masturbation polls and seeing that the aspergirls have noted some things that I have that...before I knew I was aspie...thought were really unusual. I used to read everything I could about sex being painful or overwhelming and never found ANYTHING to describe my issues.

When I was breastfeeding, the sensation of the milk letting down absolutely drove me insane--like sandpaper and bugs and tickles (*shudder*) under my skin from my earlobe, down my neck and out my nipple. Still, I did it, because it was best for my kids. When I mentioned it to the experts...doctor, nurse, lactation specialist...none of them had ever heard of such a thing.

I had to nurse lying down because it was the only way I could relax enough through the discomfort to make things work, so to speak. SO...my inquiring mind wants to know...all you aspergirls who have experienced being a milkcow (there may not be many of us)...what was that experience like for you? Can I get just one amen? Maybe?

And even if you aren't an Aspergirl who has been milked, all comments and experiences welcome. :)


Yes, I experienced exactly this as well! The breastfeeding books described it as a `feeling of release`for me it was a horrible sensation! I hung in there with breastfeeding until just under two years. It was one of the most difficult things I have ever done. There were times when I thought I would go mad if I had them sucking on me for another second (I say them because I had twins). But I was so determined because of everything I had read about how preferable breast milk is to bottle, that I gritted my teeth and somehow got through it.



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24 Sep 2010, 10:47 am

annotated_alice wrote:
Yes, I experienced exactly this as well! The breastfeeding books described it as a `feeling of release`for me it was a horrible sensation! I hung in there with breastfeeding until just under two years. It was one of the most difficult things I have ever done. There were times when I thought I would go mad if I had them sucking on me for another second (I say them because I had twins). But I was so determined because of everything I had read about how preferable breast milk is to bottle, that I gritted my teeth and somehow got through it.

That describes my experience as well. The constant suckling drove me up the wall, as well as the pain. I kept it up for 10 months, and then couldn't do it anymore.


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24 Sep 2010, 11:28 am

Oh, I love you ladies for validating me! All these women used to claim breastfeeding was so beautiful and that the let down actually felt good, and I used to dig into my neck, scratching against the sensation, sometimes opening my skin I would scrub at it so hard. It isn't a matter of relaxation, because the milk only flows if you relax. 21 months back to back with two kids...I was the milk cow for basically 4 years of my life. Thank GOD! for the oxytocin release (that calming, feel good hormone), or I probably would have damaged myself and my kids.

I used to beat myself up mentally for these wicked thoughts. I thought there was something truly wrong with me...that I could nurse my babies and feel so awful about it. I guess it's all about perspective, isn't it? Am I wicked for dreading the sensation of let down and feeling like I don't 'love' my babies because I loathed the feeling of them draining me (and that is what it felt like)? Or am I proof of unconditional love that I was able to make that sacrifice for them, despite the sensations? It's probably some middle ground, that I can't fathom, but it feels SO good to know I'm not alone. :!: :!: :!:


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