I am NOT romantic!

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I think there are a lot of guys who aren't romantic at all, they're just faking it to impress women. Unfortunately if you don't take the time to figure out what kind of woman you're with before trying all sorts of tricks, that rarely end well. If you tell these guys straight that you don't like romantic stuff they might be quite relieved.

I was romantic for about 6 months with my first love, when I was a teenager. Grew out of it quickly. Even back then it mostly felt like playing the part, because that's how it's supposed to be, right?

Nowadays I'm not romantic at all. I do try to tolerate stuff by trying to imagine everybody is 14 - 17 and then things seem to make sense.

*Talk about romantic. Those proposal stories always crack me up. OK so you've been with this guy for 5 years, things are going well. You guys know how many kids you want, what kind of house you'd like to buy, or have bought the house and made those kids already. One day you found him looking at jewelry web sites, he borrowed one of your everyday rings, he went shopping with your mom or sister. Then on a special date in an unusually fancy restaurant he pulled out a ring box and proposed. You were soooooo SURPRISED you were speechless, then burst into tears and sobbed "yes". Didn't see that coming at all. Yah right.

Ehh I sorta dated a guy who wanted ideal romance. We never really officially dated and there were reasons why it didnt happen. 1 of them being he wanted ideal man/women romance and that wasnt my thing at all. He was trying to prove himself as all manly and I was small and feminine, that was BS to me. I cant explain it. He ideally wanted romance when there was nothing between us. I really cant say cause I feel like havent found the right guy. Maybe Id like romance if I ever did find the right guy.

I'm not romantic in the slightest. I like the idea of romance, I love hearts and my user name is based on a pretty romantic song...but if I had to try to be romantic I don't think I'd last five minutes, it just annoys me and I'm not totally sure why relationships require any sort of romance, I'll take being comfortable with someone and just hanging out over restaurants and roses any day.

My boyfriend - who is currently sitting next to me, so I'm of course only going to say nice things about - would probably like me to be romantic, or at least show my love more than I do as I'm not overly affectionate and very self-centred. He's romantic not in the sense of flowers and poems, but he's thoughtful and gets me a lot of gifts when he can, and he is very cuddly and affectionate...I just try to ignore it

i've met some guys who use 'romance' as a way to try and 'get into my pants'. ((i hope it was okay to type that here, there wasn't an age limit on this forum, so i hope it was okay to say that.)) sometimes people can use romance and affection when they are more interested in something purely physical. of course this is not always the case.

for me being 'romantic' is relationship specific. the kind of 'cute' and 'romantic' stuff my husband does might have seemed weird if it came from someone else. and some of the cute things he says to me he never said to anyone else. he never sang to another gal before me. there were guys before who liked me and tried to be romantic but i didn't like them as much as they liked me and their romantic gestures made me uncomfortable.
based on my experience, i would say romance is very relationship specific. just like some people don't like peanut butter on it's own but love reeces peanut butter cups. or how some people hate tomatoes but love tomato sauce on pizza.

Well, my husband wasn't quite that obvious...the only time he ever asked my about jewelry, we weren't even dating. He showed me a ring he liked -- which happened to be my dream engagement ring (not a diamond solitaire). He never borrowed one of my everyday rings and he didn't take anyone with him to pick out my ring. We had been together almost 4 years and lived together for three, and we'd talked about getting married at some point. He took me out and bought me a dress he thought looked beautiful on me, and he planned a special meal at one of the best restaurants in the area (it's in a converted castle with beautiful grounds). He almost blew it at the beginning when he said something very sweet to me and I got tearful and he said, "Hey, no crying yet!" He corrected quickly with, "No crying at all," but I caught that "yet." So yes, I definitely suspected...but it made no difference. When he went down on one knee and opened the box and asked me to marry him, I still burst into tears and and sobbed "yes." Even though I'd thought weeks ahead (and confided in my mom) that I thought he was going to ask, it was an emotional moment. It meant just as much.

Now, my husband is not much for the flowery romantic thing. He rarely compliments me, although he tells me he loves me every day. For birthdays and other events, he gets me funny cards rather than gushy ones, and he knows I prefer that. For Valentine's day this year, he bought us Chocolate Stout from our favorite local brewery. For my birthday, he got me a Sex Bob-Oms t-shirt (and if you have not seen "Scott Pilgrim vs. The World," shame on you). Frankly, I think those are better than any other sort of gift, as they take into account who I am. I can live without the flowers and chocolate and poetry -- they're traditional and not original. They're impersonal. I'm not the sort of person who think gifts prove love, either -- but the thought he goes to in picking out a gift proves so much!

I can't STAND romance! I'v only learned about it through stupid disney shows and other media (I know they're not real) but ever sence I'v been scared of it. I don't like the thought of a guy saying lovey-dovey junk to me and flirtting with me. Your not alone, and I'm glad other girls feel this way too!

I don't like all that romance stuff either those awful soppy poems that you see on birthday cards should come with chunder buckets.
As I don't like being touched I wouldn't want any of that.

Nothing romantic about me!

Unless it's real, I don't want it. What I mean is all that Valentine's junk, cards, flowers, etc is fake and means nothing. It's actually just due to the consumer society we live in, but that's a topic for another thread. I know I'm loved by the care that my husband shows for me every day - that's the important part of a relationship. We don't buy one another gifts for birthdays or Christmas and I don't mind in the slightest. My sister-in-law thinks our marriage is somewhat lacking because of this, but hers is the shaky one, not mine.