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A definite yes. The thought of going days without interaction is just awful...

I would LOVE complete isolation. Just me and the nature, and the world would forget all about me.

I used to get incredibly lonely, but there would be long periods in between where I was perfectly content with my own company. I would even get resentful if people wanted my time or company. Being in a relationship helped with that, but I still crave something more; female friends maybe?

I miss my boyfriend terribly because he had to move abroad to get work. I miss my best friend and the company of my other friends who are less close but still good company. My social skills have improved and I no longer have social phobia but I just cannot fit in the time. My mind gets way too easily overwhelmed for me to cope with everything involved in life - house chores, running errands, college, work and social life... I can't seem to meet with people enough. I also can't seem to get enough work to save enough money to go do social activities with people, or even visit my boyfriend, even though I've tried as hard as I can. I get so down about being by myself and not having someone to have fun with and take my mind off things. I like being alone but I depend on it far too much and it doesn't make me happy. My sisters no longer speak to me since my diagnosis and I'm a bit distant with my father as he's a farmer and constantly busy. My brother and I never really had a relationship as he spent our entire childhood and teenage years abusing me. My mother is nice to me when she's in a good mood and unbelievably mean to me when she has her tempers, and never apologises or shows any regret for her nasty behaviour no matter how bad it gets. This is the first summer I am going to be staying in the city where I go to college instead of in the beautiful countryside where I grew up, because I cannot be happy at home under my parents' roof living in their way by their rules and dealing with their noise etc. I can't deal with being around people - but I can't cope with being alone either. I just can't figure this one out!

Idont usually feel too lonley during the day, but I do at night if I am single. But allways felt lonley in ways because I cannot connect with normal people....Now, with an Aspie boyfriend I find I feel lonley for HIM cause he is allways sucked into his video games so I feel a bit neglected at times...

I feel lonely a lot because I dont feel very comfortable around people.. I wish did.. i would like to have friends.. but i have never been able to do the typical friends things.. i just feel uncomfortable.. or i can do it for awhile.. and then get really overwhelmed and have to withdraw for ages..
Most of the time its easier to avoid everyone so i dont get really anxious and stressed... but that just increases the loneliness...

Naomi

if i was in a relationship, living with a guy i loved, i could be alone for hours and not feel lonely.
if i am not in a relationship, living alone, I feel quite lonely and the alone time is not as nice.

not that i am not a complete person alone and fulfilled, etc, but i prefer a shared life.

I am really alone... I don't have friends, even a friend. I talk only with my parents on the phone, and my sister lives in another country, she sends me emails one or two times a week. I am devastated over this situation. I already tryed everything, courses, sports, clubs... I really tryed to communicate with people. But they're not interested in me, some talk with me only because they need a favor which they never return.
I'm stuck im my apartment, I don't go out much, not even for a walk because when I see people talking I feel like I got punched in my stomach, I almost feel physical pain. I always ask myself: Why can't I have this? Normal, everyday conversation. The more I think the worse I feel. I can't take it anymore.

I yearn for human touch, I don't yearn as much for sex, as for that everyday intimacy, sharing thoughts and things.

I dont't know what else to do.

Forgive me, I had to drink to write this.

I also have difficulty maintaining regular friendships. It seems the only relationships I've managed to keep alive were if I had a boyfriend. I don't know why, maybe a "boyfriend" is willing to put in more effort/ put up with more social difficulties because of the sex and everything, than a normal friend would. But the problem is that if one's significant other is your entire social world, what happens if the relationship does fail? It's shattering because you're back to isolation again. I'm lucky in that I'm close to my immediate family-- it isn't exactly friendship, but it does keep me from total isolation. If it weren't for that, I would have a hard time seeing the point in life.

It reminds me of something I once saw in a documentary. A woman in africa developed a fistula after an arduous childbirth. It left her incontinent, so she was shunned by the village and forced to live alone in a shack away from her family and villagers. She said living that way was worse than death.

No, but sometimes I wish I had more friends within my age range. I do have quite a few friends, but most of them are either older or younger than me. I'm also really close with my family, which helps some. So, no, I don't feel lonely as much as I used to when I was younger.

I have suffered a lot from lonliness over the years. At the moment - I am very much alone - but for some reason I don't feel lonely?!

My son is off at Uni. My partner needed so much alone time that he's got it in abundance now (as in we're not seeing each other anymore).

My job ends on Friday (14th Oct) - this may make loneliness kick in big time - but I hope not.

I think I have this website to thank. I now know there are others like me. I now know that those who are not like me are NT and they can't help it

I'm so lonely. I just don't know what to do about it though.

I just had a meltdown...

A friend sent me a photo of her newborn baby. I just lost it. She mocks me. I kicked the door so hard that frame broke.

My life is hard enough without humiliation.

I'm lonely even with social interaction with peers. Only real, very close, friends make me feel less lonely.