Do you wear jewellery?

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I like necklaces and earings (and I like them to be matching).
I don't go for expensive stuff - just costume jewellery.
I hate wearing anything around the hand area such as bracelets or rings - they really irritate me.
I don't mind a watch so much but it does make my hand hurt as though circulation is being cut off.

No, I don't mainly because I have bad dermatitis and can't wear fake gold or silver jewelry. I only wear earrings that are real metals.

This is a really good thread. I think I may have read something similar elsewhere, but I'd still like to contribute here. Until recently I had no clue that my feelings about hair and jewelry were fairly common among women on the spectrum. I appreciate beautiful things and beauty, but styling my hair and wearing jewelry has never felt right.

About my hair ...

My hair is red, which has been a source of embarrassment and teasing for me. But my struggles with my hair extend beyond the color. I have never known what to do with it, how to style it, how to make myself comfortable with my hair. Men tend to prefer women with longer hair, and I've had men ask me to either grow my hair or drop hints by asking if I've ever had long hair, always an annoyingly obvious clue that they want me to grow my hair. I can't stand feeling my hair and having to touch it and push it behind my ears or brush it out of my eyes. It's distracting and makes me feel like I have tentacle things hanging off of my head. I have tried every style under the sun, and only when my hair is very, very short am I content. The problem is that my mother has always told me I look awful and like a boy or a lesbian. Isn't that an awful thing to tell your daughter? Mothers should build up their daughter, not tear them down like that. These days, at the age of 41, I'm finally settled on very short hair. It's a cute style and effortless and perfectly suits my autistic eccentricities, and my new and wonderful boyfriend loves it because he loves me just the way I am.

About jewelry ...

If I wear jewelry it's 14kt gold and small and simple. I do wear a few bracelets, but only because they're special (my mother's and my grandmother's) and work with my style. The only ring I really want to wear is a wedding ring, although sometimes I'll wear my mother's topaz ring (love the sparkle) or a gold ring I treated myself to that has a smiling manatee. Yes, I'm in my forties and wear animal jewelry. My wedding ring (should that lovely day ever happen) will need to be a comfy non-obtrusive gold band that I can't feel. And about earrings, I wear small gold ones (alternating between three pairs), mostly because it makes me feel a little more feminine and because it's expected of women. I am always very aware of my jewelry and can't stand being able to feel anything touching my skin. Right now I'm wearing my grandmother's beautiful gold bracelet (a bangle) and the manatee ring. The bracelet challenges me sometimes, but it's very pretty and simple and special, and the ring I always have to take off when I get home, even though it's very small.

Hope this helps someone who's struggling with these same issues.

Carla

I got my ears pierced when I was 20. I always wear the same studs. I never felt comfortable wearing large ear rings or other kind of jewellery. I tried, though, when I wanted to fit in, when I was younger. I don't wear a watch either. All that stuff makes me really uncomfortable and tense. I think it looks nice on others, but not on me. So I've given in to not wearing it. After all, I don't really care anyway .

I always wear my wedding ring and a watch and, if I remember to put them on, a pair of earrings. If I'm going out somewhere nice, I'll usually wear a necklace too, nothing fussy, just a pendant on a simple gold or silver chain. I have a few good matching sets of earrings and necklaces and some costume jewellery, not a lot.

I usually wear earrings when going out of the house. Sometimes I try to wear bracelets but it feels weird and because my wrists are thin they move up and down the whole time. I had periods of wearing a ring around the 4th finger. When I stopped wearing it, I was still 'looking' for it the whole time, as if something was missing... I don't often wear necklaces, only for like, Christmas or something.
I also don't like doing much with my hair. When I tie it, I get a headache. My hair is long and 99% of the time hangs loose. Nowadays I often wear a hair band to keep it out of my face and eyes.

I like jewelry as long as it's not too tight or restrictive. I've had my ears pierced since I was 13 and I like earrings, mostly the stud kind because longer earrings tend to make me more aware that they're there and start to bother me. I have one pair of earrings I bought in Romania that are a *little* longer but even they don't dangle much. Watches tend to really bother me for some reason, as do some bracelets. I can tolerate thin bracelets, though. I don't have much trouble with necklaces unless they're tight, the "choker" kind, which I can't wear. I wear a wedding ring and maybe another ring, but after I had my kids my fingers were a bit bigger (even though I didn't retain a lot of weight, my hands and feet got bigger) and I had to have my rings resized because they were bothering me so much.

~Kate

I only really wear pieces that mean something to me personally.My grandmother's pearl earrings,bracelet,necklace;snakeskin turquoise from Eastern Europe,my grandmother's bracelet with a locket containing pictures of her parents,rings I have gotten traveling,amethyst and pearl necklace I made.

Thank you for all your postings.

When I was little I watched my mother putting on jewellery and she would ask me which one would be the better one to wear. But I never started imitating it. I don't even wear my weddingring but my husband doesn't do it either. I guess I cannot put an emotional meaning to it enough, not the fact of being married but the symbol of a ring. Once my husband got me a beautiful necklace and I did put it on for a while but it was too distracting for me. I am not allergic against the material but the feeling having something around my neck makes it hard. I do have a severe sensitivity for clothes and also having hair hanging in my face, that's why I tie it in the back.

I wear a little. I didn't when I was younger, unless it was for a special dress-up occasion. I hated the way a wristwatch felt, like a manacle, and never have liked something heavy hanging around my neck either. I never got my ears pierced and clip-ons can pinch after a while.

Recently I moved downtown (small city) so I could walk or take the bus everywhere, and now I wear a few things as a matter of convenience. A watch is VERY helpful with the bus and I've gotten used to it. And earrings and a necklace show that I'm not a homeless person--there are a lot of them around here. I don't look down on homeless people, but being mistaken for one is unpleasant. Since my clothes are far more comfortable than stylish and I cut my own hair, that mistake could reasonably be made, without the jewelry.

No. Jewlery really irritates me! Plus i have a hard time keeping bracelets and rings on because they slip right off cus i'm really skinny:/

I stick mainly with earrings (prefer French hooks), and sometimes necklaces.......not so much into bracelets or rings because it's hard to find stuff that will fit me.

I like jewelry. Earrings, a necklace, a watch, maybe a bracelet and one ring on the middle or ring finger on each hand.

If I wear jewelry its because its emotionally meaningful to me, not to look good. The first Christmas my boyfriend and I had been together, his mom had given him a viking necklace appropriate for a male or female. I visited later that day, and when I was leaving he put it on me and asked me to wear it while we couldn't be together (we had been used to living together, as we were all but living together before we were romantically involved). Once we were back physically together he still liked me wearing it, so I wore that necklace until it wore out.

When I was younger I wore bracelets because the feeling of nothing on my wrist bothered me. I like pressure on my wrists.

I hate bracelets. I never wore rings until I got engaged and then married, but it took me a while to get used to the feel of rings on my fingers.

I often wear necklaces and ear rings - although I get sore holes so I can't wear them every day - I need a day off to let them recuperate.

I guess if the jewellery is 'tight' to the skin like a ring or a watch, I can wear it, but if it moves, like a bracelet, then I can't.

No, I am pretty plain. Even my hair is always pulled back. I always get constant remarks from my sister and mother that I should wear my hair down and try to look good.