How to spot out a female aspie?

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Just shout "YO! I found a picture of Nathan Fillion/Jewel Staite shirtless!" They will come.

I wonder if mine is like that I had enormous trouble with eye contact when I was younger. Now I kind of just force myself to do it and basically just kind of.. look at their eyes without seeing them. Like turn my eyes the appropriate direction but not really focus on what is there. I suppose that would probably result in "dead eye contact" .. ?

I'm persuaded that the secretary at the doctors office is aspie. Her voice is flatter then most NT women, especially for a secretary(most secretary put on a very well-skilled friendly act), her eye contact is rather dead, when I approached her she seemed a little lost with her job, she gave me a red pen to fill out doc forms, she called me this morning to reschedule my app and her speech was awkwardly phrased her words like she didn't automatically know how to smoothly ask me on the spot.



Maybe she is on antidepressants/ anxiety medication.

Aha! Found one!

Slightly off topic.....but since you brought up the whole dead/alive eyes thing....My friend who is very social has very "alive" eyes. People are naturally drawn to her because she is seen as "friendly"

When I think of an Aspie girl....2 people come into mind....
1. Daria
2. Girl from Breakfast Club

More facial expressions, her comfortable dressing style, her younger look, eccentric behavior.

I don't know any other female Aspies IRL, but if we're talking physical:

* fidgets a lot, shakes leg or messes with fingers etc.
(at least I do this)

well I can see how others "spot" myself
-I practically bound everywhere in public like a deer
-don't make eye contact or fail to notice people
-nervous and anxious around a lot of people
-if forced to be in a closed area,work my way to the window,or simply get upset and break free to be outdoors
-always dressed in earth tones funky clothes
-talk more to children,animals and older people than those my age
-snubs alcohol/clubs
-faces WAY too many faces and always unaware of it!

I was actually wondering this the other day. If I knew what traits to look for, I would have more courage to go and talk to that person if I was quite sure if she had AS. Most of them are good at blending in.

For years, I tried to make friends, and couldn't. and the last few years, I tried but miserably failed one after another on-line. I even joined Plenty Of Fish and OK Cupid, looking for a friendships, relationships and just people to hang out with. Most girls on dating sites are mean (as well as in the off-line world), they judge people and they're too greedy. They get on and expect to find someone with good looks, money etc. It is actually very common for average or below average guys to not have much luck on dating sites. I don't log into them anymore, because they just made my depression come back.

Most NT people are the same around here. When I was i high school (04-07), pretty much everyone had the same personality. The like to drink and get wasted every weekend, party, do drugs etc. They are rude and don't care. I'm the opposite of all that. Which is why I hate NT people, because they mostly all are so much a like, and for the odd person out, like me do not stand a chance at all. If only "society" would accept people for who they are, and give them a chance before they judge, the world would be better off.

Aspies, on the other hand, often have an interesting personalities. They don't do what must NT people do, such as drugs, getting drunk a lot etc. I am compatible with most of them. Knowing, that someone had Autism/Asperger's, would probably increase my chances of making a friend (but there's no guarantee). I have been hurt by many NT people over the years, and I don't even try to make friends anymore. I know that it's the same result over and over again, no matter what I do.

So I grew up in the system and was always taken to one appt or the other. They diagnosed me with ODD, ADHD, Severe Depression, PTSD, etc etc...but none of those diagnoses ever really fit 100% and the meds zombified me. Now that I'm older and I actually originally found out about Asperger's via a movie: Mozart and the Whale. -I love movies ^_^- I was in HS then and the first thing I thought was...WOW she's just like me! Until then I'd never really had any experience with people similar to me at all. I think part of the reason I can blend so well is because of my intelligence and that which I am interested in. Ever since I was little, I never really ever had any friends. People scared me and I didn't understand them. I didn't have any friends at all until HS. I used to walk around with my nose in a book and pretty much completely ignore everyone around me. However, because I was in a group home at one point I used to get in trouble all the time for being really socially inept. I used to get the: "You're so intelligent you should know better, you're just doing this on purpose..." routine. I did end up learning a lot of social skills via rote memorization though. I used to get tasked with copying down social skills steps until I could recite them. Now I am much better at fooling people into thinking that I am very normal...but the fact of the matter is, I always feel like I'm acting...because inside I am nervous, confused, and don't know what is going on half the time. It helps that one of my biggest interests is understanding human interaction, mainly because to me it is the biggest challenge of understanding...so it fascinates me the most. Other things get boring because I pick them up so fast...but try as I might, people still remain such a large mystery to me. Now to be fair, I haven't been diagnosed yet...in HS there were other things going on and I forgot all about the similarities I had observed in the movie. It wasn't till a few days ago I was speaking to my mom and she told me that she found a list of traits for females with asperger's and they seemed to describe me to a T. After looking over the information, some honest reflection, and further research that led me here...I definitely believe I need to get tested (granted I don't have health insurance right now) but it sounds very important to me. What amazes me is that no one else ever thought, hey, maybe she has this...despite the fact that they were treating me for all sorts of different issues, all of which taken as a whole point to asperger's.

Oh and P.S. I'm rather long winded when I get going. *blushes*