Can women be nerdy and atractive at the same time???

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I'm only interested in intelligent girls, though I do think that different people exhibit intelligence in different ways. Some of my female friends are academically clever, some are clever in a practical, creative way, and some are clever in the way they communicate and understand people.

My last girlfriend was very pretty and sweet-natured, but she didn't really think about things. In fact, she was a bit dizzy and self-absorbed. I have learnt my lesson.

Being able to talk to your partner about anything and everything is the most important thing of all.

Hmmn

I've always had a thing for the nerdy girls... But never had a clue why.. Sometimes nerdy can EQUAL attractive

And until quite recently, even denied myself that attraction, thinking it was wrong, or should be wrong..

I would love to meet a woman that could keep up with me, but then again, one doesn't need to always get me, simply to be humble in her own strengths and have her own drives would be a beautiful plus I haven't found in any..

In the past it was all based on how much interest they showed in me initially, combined with how attracted I was physically, this led to relationships where I was the teacher, they were the student, which NEVER made me feel connected or better because I was always teaching them something new, while they used what I taught them to compete with me..

Not generalising at all just personal experience..

Anyway... Be what you are, your strengths will definately attract someone who sees them, a very strong attractant is knowing what you can do, and doing it well, while being willing to try new things.

I think it depends on how they wear that nerdiness, what it is, etc. If its someone who's payed close attention to their social skills, sees to it that they dress well, works at being well rounded and being able to get along with almost any kind of group, but who's a nerd at heart in terms of what they're into or a lot of the things that make them happy - its awesome. I think that's the whole thing about it though - stereotypical nerdiness really isn't attractive but having it balanced out with the right kind of charm is. Would I date a nontraditional nerd? If I feel like she's like me enough then definitely, as for a nerd-nerd though - I probably wouldn't and its not even about attractiveness its about the fact that we'd just have nothing in common and be mutually dissatisfied being together.

I find nerdiness attractive. It shows that a girl is intelligent, less occupied with socialising, less likely to run into trouble, much more likely to succeed, and much more interesting. I look for certain qualities, most importantly similar personality, similar way of thought, something deeper than just superficial emotions. One in 6 Billion.

Just on another note - I was telling one of my roomates this today, I think I'm definitely into the sojah-etts. I mean the girls who hang with the hard crowd, may or may not have been dealers in the past, some of the same girls where while they may seem feminine even most guys wouldn't mess with em because they're tough as nails. Why would I go for that? My answer is this: they're more on my page in terms of being honor before emotion, they're tough enough where they don't need a guy to be the original white DMX (they have enough badass to go around so when they find the values they like in a guy and as long as he's not a complete puff its all good - even if he is it still might be a go). Girls like that also aren't as closed-minded, aren't as timid about some of the things I'm into, they aren't usually skiddish, they read people on content more than just flash-judgement, and a lot of the same personality qualities I like in a good guy-friend they have.

As for some of the other types of girls I've met I'll lay it out on the table. I've met nerd girls who liked me, while some were cute a lot of the ones who did take a liking in me didn't have it together and I knew they'd be drama (found out later from guys they dated that it was hell being with em). I've met lots of those really fair, cute and innocent yuppy christian blondes and redheads who don't seem hardened and seem real opened to a good guy - they've been attracted to me as well but what broke my heart about them is there were too many things about me and my friends who, of course being in another crowd all together, minds wouldn't meet and after a certain age you realize people don't change that much - they have their world, I have mine, and if that's their comfort zone I don't want to break it. Yeah, traditionally I've been attracted to really feminine girly-girls but as of the past few years that I really start putting that on the back seat and putting personality compatability and honor on the front seat I still have to give it up to the soljah-etts. Nice thing is plenty of those types of girls are the types who'll sit there and play Halo or Final Fantasy, they'll (at least in the case of one that I'm starting to see right now) like going to see art exhibits or be into crafts and not be afraid to talk about it, they have a definite idenity in terms of the types of music or just things in general - I love that sort of refined character and for me it just seems like they're about the only women I'll find the types of qualities that I need in. It just makes me feel bad for all the girls who've chosen to conform to some guys and fall all over them or have those real ambiguous "whatever your into I'm into" sorts of personalities because for a guy like me its the farthest thing from what I want - what I want is someone who's as defined as I am, who knows who she is as much as I do, has as much of a life philosophy built as I do, someone who I could find really interesting, someone who doesn't have the conformity-or-bust disease, and while that does encompass some types of nerds I think it really throws a lot of the more fragile and brittle nerds out the window and again, goes more toward the adaptive and well-grounded types.

Yes.

**GUY SPEAKING**

I haven't really read any of thread because I can't be bothered, though as a bloke I naturally get drawn to the prettiest girl.

On the other hand, their are pretty girls who I don't like ....

Personally, I find a girl that's honest and understands what I'm talking about attractive whether she looks hot or not.

Agreed, though I think for me attraction still has some physical aspects that I can't shake its still finding what my physiology will allow and that's all over the place and definitely nowhere near restricted to models or anything (like you I naturally veer away from that anyway just because, that's not what I'm really into). I think also in addition to having a good gut level understanding you have to have that flow like your old friends and be able to feel really comfortable around eachother and a lot of that has to do with how you read eachother - kinda gestalt driven and kinda driven by the attitude that people come into a meeting with.

"Can women be nerdy and atractive at the same time???"

Hell yes.

Well think about it, sexy librarian look

Personally I think that women that aren't nerdy are far less attractive than women who are, more often than not.

yeah nerds can be pretty attractive... they're more likely to be more interesting anyways... i think tomboys are hot...

On The Amazing Race #9 was a couple who were both nerdy types. I thought she was attractive. More so than the typical bleached blonde types that we keep seeing everywhere.

Definately, my girlfriend is a delicious nerd, though she hides the nerd aspects from everyone except me, which makes me feel wonderful

I know it sounds wrong, but she is NT, she loves her group or "crew" as she calls it, but generally when they're not around her favourite activities are those usually considered nerdy...

I absolutely love it, especially when she wears her glasses too.

Lois Lane was nerdy.

...and comissioner Gordon's daughter.