I'm ugly and I'm OK with it

Post Reply New Topic

Maybe plain would be a better way to describe my appearance, as one poster said. No one has flat out called me "ugly" or anything like that. Most people view me as a perpetual teenager or "little sister" even though I'm 28. Since I'm not looking for a romantic and/or sexual relationship I'm usually fine with this. It just seems weird sometimes that men seem to categorize me as something other than a woman. It's like, there's men, there's women, and then there's CalvaryMaid.

If your nose really is big, and I would see about getting an unbiase opinion, that can be fixed for under 5K. I am facing 15 to 20K in dental bills. This motivated me to investigage Mexican dentists. Everything that I have read indicates that they are the equal of what you get in the US (if you do the research), and 1/2 to 1/4 the price. Hence, I suspect that a little research will turn up reliable practitioners that can do the job for 3K or less. As to the other things, it sounds like relatively minor things that a stylist could "fix". Contrary to what you have said, it reads like the eyebrows and mouth could be fixed by the appropriate makeup presentation. I suppose that if your mouth were really tiny then lip augentation might be a possibility.

Beauty brings its own problems. If you do not believe me just pick up one of the tabloids that assault the senses at the local supermarkets and read about all the unhappy "beautiful" people who get fat, do drugs, get arrested etc. etc.
I think that you need a neutral honest opinion from someone that you could trust. Hence my mentioning someone trained and inexpensive. Hence I suggest that you explore a "minister" or whatever at a Universalist, quaker, liberal jewish or christian minstry. In general you do not have to be a member of their congregation, and I suspect that you could get several opinions and they would probably be happy to talk for an hour for $50.00 Certainly worth exploring

re: It just seems weird sometimes that men seem to categorize me as something other than a woman. It's like, there's men, there's women, and then there's CalvaryMaid. Wow ... it seems that we all want to be unique, and then when we are, we are upset about it. Have you tried any on line matching? Doesnt this site have an aspi love link? Have you tried that? If not, then why not? If yes, then what happened?

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=sd6MoVF-9Io[/youtube]

A lot of people have told me that I'm very pretty but I don't feel as pretty as they claim me to be.
I'm no fashion fiend and I love my unkempt wavy hair.
I have absolute zero interest in collecting designer handbags and collecting jewelry.
I also prefer intelligence over looks.

I'd consider myself ugly, although I get mixed reviews about how I look. I try so hard to look pretty: fix my hair, do my makeup, put jewelery on, dress in the latest trends my parents can afford (we're kind of broke)...I go the whole 9 yards. No matter what, I still get teased in school for being fat, ugly, and a freak. They just assume I'm a freak because I seem so unappealing to the eye. I feel like all my friends and family that say I look pretty are lying. Last year in school I got so upset about boys calling me ugly, fat, and gross and the "friendly" girls saying I'm not, and I was balling my eyes out because I was being stubborn about being ugly. I felt like complete trash. My mom even called me ugly to my face. I just want to be pretty like other girls. Why they get blessed withbeauty and I don't, nobody knows.

I don't care to look pretty, just not my thing....to some people that's ugly, to some people its not. Its not something I really obsess over at all.

I've never felt attractive and oddly have had both positive and derrogatory comments. Strange, but it seems the thinner I am the more attention and positive comments I receive. While reading these posts I realised we've most likely have a narrow and created standard of beauty in our heads. I remember hearing this Christian model speak and she said that the public has no clue how much their pics and video is touched up before it is used in adds. She said people come up to her all the time after seeing her pics and ask her if she really is the model in the ad. We forget that these people are blessed genetically, but they are basically only creations of Madison Ave.

OK ... I am going to bite. Yes you are ugly, but the ugly has nothing to do with your physical body, as I think it safe to say that most women your age would trade places with you. You are not skinny, but you are not fat. You have an attractive symetrical face, and I suspect that you can do a good pout.

My guess, and this is based on your remark about your mom calling you ugly, is that you have an ugly family and this has sort of given you an ugly mind. this can be fixed with therapy, and probably not much therapy. Visit a religious counselor. They are trained in this. Find someone that you can trust and speak with them.

Yes. You are not a 10. But you are not a 5 either. Probably a 7 or 8, and if you made the effort you could be an 8+. And if you can gain some confidence, there will be plenty of men out there who will see you as a 9+

of course I may be wrong about all this. I am not wrong about your appearence being more attractive than average. And this can be an advantage since really beautivul women scare away most men.