excessive crying or being overemotional?

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I used to have problems with excessive crying when I was in 5th grade. I grew out of them mostly. But there are still stupid things in life that make me wanna cry. Like that time when I kept ringing the doorbell to my employee entrance because I didn't realize that I was supposed to turn the knob clockwise and not counter-clockwise, yet nobody told me. And I don't play multiplayer video games anymore because every time I am fragged, my subconcious interprets it as a direct personal attack. And there's only so much of that I can take.

Man, I haven't cried for a long time. Do you think a Shady would cry like a 2 year old? The correct answer is NO!

When I'm confronted with a situation (like someone being hostile or getting me to explain something I did wrong), crying is almost an auto-response. I can't help it either. Sometimes when things dont go the way I planned, I can usually feel myself tearing up. My sensitivity is the reason I'm so avoidant in nature.

I recall one time in 8th grade when one of my friends stopped breathing and fell to the floor in the room during a lunchtime party (she didn't die though) and every single girl except for me was in hysterics. I was calm but shaken, and I admit a little teary, but everyone else was crying a river for the remainder of the day (4 hours ).

Hey folks, I'm new here.

Anyways, ever since I can remember, I've always had problems with being overly emotional. Whether that be crying or yelling. Usually, as a child, I would go through both a crying and a yelling fit at least once a day. Often several times a day.

Now, at 17, i'm still this way, although, it's crying that seems to control most of my emotions now. The smallest, unimportant, trivial thing will upset me and I'll cry for hours over it. Not just small, quiet crying. Hysterical, uncontrollable sobbing. I try extremely hard not to cry in public though, as this would lead to embarrasment, even as a small child I never cried in public. I always held back, though sometimes it was almost impossible and it led to anger outbursts once I got home.

I used to feel so isolated, lost and alone. No one understood why some things would upset me so much. Even my mum doesn't understand properly. She tries to, she does know I'm very sensitive, but sometimes, she has no clue why I get so upset. Neither do I sometimes.

I also find myself getting really sentimental over things that I shouldn't. I mean, something like giving my mum a christmas card makes me tear up. I honestly do not understand that at all.

Buying chocolates for someone makes me tear up. Wishing someone a happy birthday makes me tear up. Does anyone else get that? It's really bothering me. I mean, how does saying "happy birthday!" make someone cry? Okay, if they were really ill or in hospital or something, sure, that's understandable.... but when the person is perfectly fine?

Someone got an answer to that? Or does anyone experience it? Please tell me i'm not the only one

^ I cant explain it myself...I wont cry in the "Hallmark card" type situations you mentioned, not when its a happy occasion, but I will get obsessed if someone says anything sentimental toward my personality or my emotional problems...also I cry at certain movies or scenes but not the ones that make people usually cry. Very subtle things that others might not have noticed would make me cry...

I think crying is good and I don't think anyone should ever feel guilty for crying. I myself haven't cried in so long and don't even know if I know how to anymore. I have a habit of screaming, yelling, bitching, and stomping when I'm upset which is quite often but I still cannot cry. I remember one time I cried though last year and it felt sooo good afterwards. Even my boyfriend looked at me and started understanding how upset I really am from the effects of intense social events. (and any social event becomes very intense to me). Before I would throw fits and couldn't control it and he would just think I was being manipulative or bossy with him. Now he knows that it's really a lot deeper than that. I think the hardest part is when your rational mind tells you it's nothing to be worried or upset about but your emotional mind says otherwise and you can't control it! I'm still working on that...

Crying is essentially a system of excretion. (Similar to peeing because it is a way for your body to get rid of unwanted chemicals.)

That is why people get unhealthy when they hold in their tears too much, and why you always feel better afterwards. The chemicals that your body doesn't want is out.

Can you imagine if people even ATTEMPTED never to do another wee? (Although not in public, obviously) How unhealthy that would be!

But now I'm more liable to get pissed off than to get sad and cry. Although I did have problems as a kid and especially as a teenager. (And my mum always thought that never having total meltdowns and not being the first to break down made her more right. That was annoying.)

Yeh it can be infuriating, especially when you've offered a logical argument, but then someone insults you, you burst into tears or anger, and they instantly assume that means the earlier points you've made are invalid.

I agree. When I was growing up, my grandmother told me that she couldn't cry (used to be able to when younger) & she wished she (still) could.

Very much how it is for me. I watch myself flipping out & think "I'm being ridiculous !"-doesn't help my feelings, doesn't halt my physiological reactions.

That's how I view it-if I don't cry (when I feel the need), it WILL come out/erupt in another (probably worse) way. Crying doesn't leave stains (a little salt water, I can deal with that), it stops when it's done, and it's harmless-at least in private.

I will get frazzled over the littlest things, and at the same time I never cry while watching depressing movies.

I'm kinda new.

If I start crying then I do seem to cry more than others do and I find it hard to stop once I've started. I really have to focus to stop, but I'm never sure whether that's because of my AS or because of my bad pas, guess it could be a mixture of both. However, on the flip side I can 'lock' in and no one knows how upset I may feel inside, I try and use it to my advantage when I don't want people to try and give me sympathy.

Like recently, my hammie died and I loved her to pieces and cried in front of a few people, but when I was somewhere else I just kept it all in and no one was none the wiser until I had to physically tell them what happened and then I'd feel myself want to cry but I didn't and I didn't show that I wanted to either.

i cried a lot when i was a young girl, hours, days, years .
now i don't cry anymore(or hardly), i prefer it this way.

Thinking back, i don't know whether it was out of grieve?
Maybe it was more out of frustration, when being in a situation i failed to solve and someone expecting me doing things i couldn't do.
Especially interacting with someone in a particular way (when i already had driven them in a certain state of anger and they were shouting at me that i could not possibly be serious or something)

Maybe it was all about the difficult interaction between nt's and aspies (i had never heard of aspergers, only since a few months i have).

Even without knowing what aspergers were, i did learn to communicate with nt's (i have rules to do that : "Saying what you think is rude , e.g. never tell s o you'd prefer them to leave now", "Don't try to convince s o about numeral facts", "Don't contact s o more than once a week/month", "Don't trust s o just because they are smiling", "If you made some of these mistakes, do apologise, even if you don't feel like having done something wrong" etc.)

When you're older it's easier being an asperger i think , we are very good in improving things, even ourselves, and dare to consider our weaknesses and we are very realistic,
all that while remaining ourself.

But we are quite helpless when young, too focused on whatever comes by, not enough information yet. Being busy to try to understand one thing ("Why does this girl/boy look at me this way?", "What does it mean when someone asks me something?", "How should i respond to this or that?", "I feel that what i meant is not what they understand" ,etc.) when other things are already asking our attention. Maybe also a tendency to come closer to situations we should avoid or keep at a distance.

Maybe a few tricks to avoid weeping if you'd want to ... ? (gathered in all my years of constantly falling and getting up again)

Create an image of yourself being strong and wise, of being a real inspiring person (perhaps you can imitate someone you know who is good at handling difficult situations)

Try not to focus on the grieve (you can easily amplify it, and also diminish it) but consider yourself as some kind of wizard with an enormous power to control yourself.
practise does help (everytime a little better)

Know also that you probalby can't solve the problem in the minutes to come, most things can wait (only life and death issues are urgent, all the rest can be postponed)

Try to examine whether the person you are dealing with (or hte person who is in the same place, or is close to you in everydaylife) doesn't have emotional-control problems which you might be copying. (if this is the case, the best is to wait till this person is managable and ready to consider the situation in a calm way. the fact that you copy someone elses bad habits might easily stop, once you realise that it is not your own feelings/habits)

Bare in mind that others might (and do) live the situation different than you do,
try to analyse it, you're probably good at that (imagine you are talking a different language and have to learn each others vocabulary in order to be able to speak)

think about fanfare-music (this one helps me at funerals, i see so many sad people that i tend to cry myself)

foresee situations which might cause tears, if you are prepared, it is a lot easier, if you are already in it, it's hard to stop.

Sometimes when I'm in a very depressive mood I have excessive crying. For instance, when Prom and Homecoming weekends hit, I cry a lot because I know that almost everyone is having a blast and I'm at home. I've been asked to Prom about 3 times but I've never gone because weird things just happen. Anyways, during those times, I tend to cry whenever I see friends together because, although I do have a couple friends (most I don't see on a daily basis), I feel alone for some reason. Then when someone leaves for even the faintest reason I think that they're abadoning me and then I began to cry by myself. I don't feel like this all the time; I do feel happy for some things sometimes, however. I'm a Christian and it makes me feel good that God won't ever leave me nor forsake me eventhough I feel pain and whatnot. I hate times when I feel lonely, however, but we all feel sad at times for certain reason. Anyways, to answer your question, yes I do have some excessive crying yet not all the time.

i think the real question would be why are you not willing to date?? this entire incident has really turned your world upside down.. your fears such as this are controlling your life and making you very depressed. therapy is a great way to come to terms with these issues. i think you need help with the issues that control your life and make you this upset. i am very very sensitive myself but i try not to let my fear control my life to this point.

Maybe proms and the like are too noisy and hard to predict. 17 is quite young so there is plenty of time to meet boys/men. Therapy could help but I wouldn't pin all my hopes on it, plus it is expensive (unless you can get it through a church - in which case it might be free or just a nominal cost per session).

I used to feel I was missing out on all the fun as a teenager and sometimes when I was older and used to cry a lot about it.

Sometimes I can't cry even though I want to and this is when I'm more likely to get angry if cornered. Other times, I cry too much. The littlest thing can set it off, like somebody giving me a bad look, a small snub, losing something or making a mistake and feeling embarrassed or sometimes for no apparent reason.

I think it's better to let the tears out than to keep them in. It is healthy to cry.

My parents took me to a pediatrician when I was 2 because I lacked emotions. I had always had a problem with crying until I was 14 when I had more interactions with people.
I'm in high school, now. I have anxiety disorder that leads to crying, and it also is a reason for me not attending school. I remember I was sent home because I was to emotional last year. I worked diligently on a large artwork for a class and my teacher yelled at me stating his disappointment in my piece. I cried and almost passed out from a panic attack.
I cry when I hear people's disappointment and frustration for me. I don't really know how to stop crying which frustrates me completely.

A part of me believes that is my school's fault for their disappoint which lowers my self confidence to nothing and I end up crying. The other part blames myself for not being perfect and not seeing the reason for my faults that cause disappointment.