How many people have you had "romantic experiences"

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I came up with the number 7 which I will do in chronological order:
Guy 1. Kissed at a school formal (apparently it's called picking up) we went for one date after and soon after went separate ways.
*He approached me
Guy 2. Went out with for nearly 2 years, gave virginity to him and him likewise.
*He initiated
Guy 3. Went out with for half a year, he gave his virginity to me.
*Mutual
Guy 4. Slept with on a casual/fwb basis (with some kissing during the acts) while single
*He approached me
Guy 5. Kissed
*I kissed him
Guy 6. Went out with for nearly a year, he gave his virginity to me
*I approached him
(While single went back to 4)
Guy 7. Went out with for nearly a year, we never really managed the sex part.
*He approached me
(While single went back to 4)
Now in the pursuit of a possible 8 - I messaged him online to ask him out 2 days ago, no reply.

Tally:
Kissed 7 guys
Went out with 4 guys
Slept with 5 guys (if 7 really counts)
I have been approached 4 times, mutually agreed once, kissed a guy and have asked out a guy (was the worst judgement call ever, I hope that if 8 agrees he'll turn out not to be anything like 6).

one or two. I don't know how to classify one "relationship" It was a bit weird and I don't really think of it as a real relationship. Just broke up with my boyfriend of 3.5 years. That is the only one I actually dated, kissed, had a real relationship with (though no sex). We met online, through a now gone website. Though he doesn't live that far away. I would never date someone long-distance again though. Even if he wasn't that far away, it never felt like we were together and I realised he was never going to make me an everyday part of his life.

I kind of want to try a dating site, though not now as I can't even afford a date. I think I'm just curious if anyone would even be interested. I had all kinds of crushes in middle and high school, but ever since (I'm nearly 24 now) I'm way more interested in an emotional than a sexual attraction. Someone becomes attractive to me because I like them as a person, but I don't have that initial physical attraction much anymore.

Boyfriend 1: We met at Church when I was 16. We were together for a year.
Boyfriend 2: We met at college when I was 18. We were together for six months.
Boyfriend 3: We also met at college (he was my tutor, yes I know that is bad!) when I was 18. We were together for three years.
Person 4: We met at work, when I was 21. I can't say boyfriend for this one, because we weren't. Our slightly creepy and unhealthy sexual relationship lasted for a year.
Person 5: As a above, not a boyfriend just a terrible mistake. We met at a friend's house. This was just a one night thing, which I regret as that's not really my thing.
Boyfriend 6: We met at work (the same work where I met Person 4) when I was 22. We have been together four and a half years now.

All my boyfriends have approached me, and instigated everything including sex. I don't seem to be capable of instigating relationships in a subtle way and the same goes for sex. In my relationship now in order to avoid confusion we just ask straight out 'Would you like to have sex now?' or 'Would you like to have sex later on?'. It isn't very romantic to be sure, but in the past when my boyfriend has said things like 'You look beautiful tonight, would you like an early night?' I've replied with things like 'No, I'm not tired. I think I'll stay up and watch TV'. It does work the other way too, I'm often not sure of how to extricate myself from a situation that I'm not comfortable with (short of running away, which I have done!) so I have gone along with things that I wasn't really keen on.

Two people. I wish I wouldn't have even kissed the last person I was with. I'm still a virgin.

I think I had sex with at least a dozen people but only had two actual boyfriends. They all approached me. If it was up to me to approach I'd probably still be a virgin.

I guess I've had 8 based on the criteria then but not all of these included sex.

I went on single dates with a few guys, 3 dates with 1 guy, had a boyfriend (though I'm not sure how that's defined. We dated exclusively for a couple months, pretty close emotionally, though no physical affection).

Never been kissed or anything else.

Am I ok with that? Generally yes. I just wish that I could learn how to open up to people better, and stop being so awkward around attractive guys. Dating can be confusing because I take forever to determine how I feel or how I feel about other people and make decisions accordingly. Taking a while to decode body language is also a major setback.

I have had flings with over 10 people in the past but they where all short lived and a long time ago.

I don't understand relationships. I have no idea why some people need relationships so bad. I just don't t get it!
When I look at couples who have been together for several years they don't make a happpy and contented impression on me, but since I have problems with interpreting facial expressions I could be wrong. The examples of relationships I have seen around me are not for me.

Most people will probably not believe this but I have never felt the need to have a long term relationship. The thought of marriage and/or living together with someone in the same house is very unappealing to me to put it mildly. I have to spend a considerable amount of time on my own and if that's not possible for some reason I get irritated, angry, frustrated and downright crazy. No matter how nice and understanding that other person might be. When I am around someone who constantly needs my attention I feel like life is drawn out of me.

I know that there are a lot of people with aspergers who are in long term relationships but there is also a group of aspies for whom that is simply not attainable. I belong to that last group. My aspergers is probably too severe for all of that. I just can't do it no matter how hard I try. Why should I do something I don't really want, because the rest of the world considers it to be normal? I don't think so.

none. Nothing at all.

but I'm freakingly insecure as well, I am very ugly

Never done anything with anyone and don't really see it happening, at least not in the forseeable future.
I've never been asked out or asked anyone out. I went to the prom with my best guy friend and we barely even danced. I just don't really seem to have the desire for romantic/sexual experiences.

I've never had a romantic experience. In middle school, I was asked out by a few boys, but I'm not sure to this day if they were serious or just making fun of me. I think I've been flirted with a few times. It's usually more charismatic guys who tell me to smile, ask me why I don't talk, or call me mysterious. A few months ago, a new friend of mine told me he liked me. I went on something of a date with him even though I don't like him. One time I was asked if I wanted to make $100 buy a random guy on the street, but that was creepy and I guess doesn't really count.

According to your definition, probably around 8. But you can create the motions of a romantic experiance but not really have it be romantic feeling wise. Its hard to explain, you use the word romantic. I have my own definitions of this word, I dont consider these motions I made sparking real romantic feelings. Thats just me.

*anyone you've been on MORE THAN ONE date with
9
*anyone you've kissed mouth-to-mouth
how long is a piece of string
*anyone you've had a romantic relationship with
6
*anyone you've done anything sexual with (which I will define as anything that involves removal of clothing of either partner)
How long is a piece of string



How did you meet the person/people?
Either school, work or online
I have really had 3 main relationships in my life lasting more then 12 months.
M, I met when he worked with me at mcdonalds and we got paired up for ballroom dancing because we were the tallest.
R, I met him on hotORnot and we met up and then i moved into his spare room as a flatmate
R, Friend of friends and also on OKCupid and he was a lurker on here.

Did they approach you romantically, or did you approach them?
I have always approached. I don't think I have ever accepted a date off anyone.

I'm confused by the question. I don't equate romance with getting physical or messing around.

I've had "romantic" relationships or feelings for really only 2 people. But how many people have I "dated"? 4. How many have I gotten physical with? More.

I voted 2-3 cos it's 3. 2 of my previous boyfriends/people I dated started off offline (they were NT) and the 3rd one was a real life Aspie.

For the most part I think people find me quite unapproachable in real life because of the invisible wall I unintentionally erect between myself and everyone else. I know people who have liked me but did nothing about it except look at me, and eventually they moved on to other people.

I find it a lot easier to open up to people online because my mind is not in its "social state". I am in my "alone state" with all my energy intact and therefore it's much easier for me to talk to people online and get to know them. Plus, I do not need to use my voice or body language and I have more time to think about what to say. There are many things I can only express in written form... This is one of my biggest difficulties. I doubt if I can get a boyfriend the real life way...

I'm probably about 20+ if you're counting like physical such as kissing and stuff. I've only slept with like 2 girls, and the rest I've just thrown myself at for a bit of kissing fun xD