Do women seek AS lovers?

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I have no desire to date an AS man. He'd have to be very mature, self-confident and accomplished for me to consider dating him. He's have to be someone with a postive outlook, a healthy self image and the ability to deal with the world as it is. Most of my experience with AS men come from forums like this, and it's been a serious turn-off. As someone with AS, I look to other AS people for support and insight, but I don't want to be "confined" to the AS experience alone. I want to experience more in this life, and there's a lot of things I want to do. I want a partner who's curious, out-going and adventruous like I am, someone who can hit the ground running with me. I definitely don't want to sit around watching him play video games or listen to him whine about how hard life is for him because he has AS.

You made an excellent point about an AS partner having to be mature. This is something I would require in a potential mate, AS or NT. If an AS woman is dating me, her reason would have to be because something about me turned her on--as opposed to it being a desparate attempt to "be like everyone else". Even among a dating pool of AS females, I am very strict about who I date.

Tim

Last edited by Tim_Tex on 25 Dec 2006, 2:59 am, edited 1 time in total.

What I can't figure out is how guys like that even get dates period. My guess is that you've probably met at least a handful of aspie guys in your life who you might have been attracted to but you never would have guessed they had a shred of it in em (then again there's the catch - if you did find yourself dating that kind of aspie you probably wouldn't even realize it till you were already going steady). Some of us give it our all to rise above the label, others lay down and take it or even as some other people here pointed out use it as an excuse. Its one thing if a guy's lower functioning and it just can't be helped but another when its almost all attitude and self-esteem getting in the way and they've made a lifestyle of it. If I met a woman like that theres no way I could be attracted to her.

I would be happy to date a fellow aspie.