do you ever feel asexual?

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Sometimes I feel asexual because I'm not sexualy active but I have been thinking about sex all the time lately but I wouldn't want it all the time.

I am asexual.

Hate that. Wish I wasn't, but it's just the way things are.

Whenever I read things like this I have a strong urge to chime in with an obscene comment.

Good question

My ex long-term BF always said that I wasn't affectionate or attentive enough towards him (eg. cuddles, holding hands), so in order to get the attention he wanted, he decided to get what he wanted in way of affection by having more sex. Whenever I said 'No', he would bring up my affection problems (usually making me cry for hours!!). I learnt after a while to not say 'No' just so I wouldn't upset him or myself. Sex kinda seemed forced and SERIOUSLY against my will after that. Combine that with his pitiful lovemaking technique...... and I MEAN PITIFUL.

And thats about as straightforward as I can put it. It's rather upsetting to talk about, honestly

I feel asexual. I'm through with men.

I sometimes feel asexual, and I wish I'd feel like that all the time because it would make interacting with girls much easier.

I would say it depends. I have an extremely narrow range in male physical appearances that appeals to me. If that isn't met, it wouldn't matter what they were like or how close I was to them otherwise, I would be completely asexual with them. On the other hand, with that type, I would say I was very sexual with them as I was very sexually attracted.

I find it interesting the person who said the sexual attraction went away in a long term relationship. I realize that is true of NTs since I hear it so much, but I hadn't really thought of it being an issue with an Aspie. I guess for me (and probably my partner), sex is as much a mental experience as anything. What you try, what you can try and what you can try next. It's also, for me anyway, an artistic endeavor. The two, art and physical contact, are very tied together. Perhaps it takes two people being in that same place?

Now, by the same token, I absolutely cannot stand to be touched by almost all people, even in a friendly way. It unequivocally gives me the creeps when people touch my arms or hug me.

Asexual, absolute. My evidence: 53 revs about the sun and I am a virvin - well excepting a probable rape at about three years of age. I had no part in that. virgin.

Honest: the largest problem I have had is not my asexuality, but rather a meta feeling about my asexuality - that there was something wrong with me. Nothing is wrong, simply different.

I'm 100% asexaul and proud of it

Meh. Not really.

Sometimes. Not all the time. More so lately than ever though. I'll sometimes be in love but not physically attracted to the person. It's weird...
That's only some of the time. Most of the time it's pretty normal. I think...

I know I am.

It had the opposite effect on me and made me disgusted by anything sexual for a long time. I didn't even get a toy or anything until I was 26 and stayed well away from men until I met my ex at 24. Back then, I sought this ideal figure who wouldn't have any sexual interest in me. I still have issues with it, but have improved immeasurably due to help from the few online men I have interracted with. I don't need sex, in honesty... but I cannot now simply go months without even masturbation... I feel wrong even using that word, lol. It seems so...private.

No. Never felt like that.

I'm not asexual, but I am so picky about the guys I like that I might as well be "effectively asexual". I can count the amount of people I've ever felt any attraction to on my fingers, and only like two of them I would have any chance of getting with. This pickiness, combined with my dislike of kissing/touching, means I'm probably going to be alone for the rest of my life.

Yes for about a decade, occasionally I will be attracted to someone but its shortlived.