Is this typical of female Aspies?

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When I got my first period, I was still playing with dolls. I was terribly upset by getting my period, and I hid it from my parents. It was about 3 or 4 months before my mom figured it out. I was 14.

I would assume it's typical of all girls. But neither of my sisters seemed to react that badly, unless they hid it very well. They both had best friends or a small group of intimate friends, though, to talk things over with. I didn't. Maybe that would explain different reactions by Aspie females. Do other girls talk about this with friends? I have no idea, since I didn't have close friends.

Agreed.

I started my period at 13, so I wasn't too shocked when I first started because I was expecting to start around that age. I knew all about periods, even before we learnt about it in sex education. So I was all right.

Same here. I started my period when I was almost 13, and I expected it because I alredy knew about it, so I didn't care much about it.

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I was upset when I started growing breasts at 11. But my period didn't start till I was 14 so I was prepared for it by then.

I don't really remember my first period very well, but I know I was 12 at the time and my mom had already talked to me about periods and stuff before I started getting periods so I knew about what was going to happen already. She also told me not to tell my then eight year old sister. I did anyway because I always have to share things I've learned with someone right after learning them. My sister didn't care. I don't even think she was really listening.

I've often read about girls getting their periods and not knowing what they were and only being told about them after the fact. This always seems strange to me as I was told about how girls mature before I got my period and it makes sense to me for a parent to tell their kid ahead of time as soon as they are old enough to understand it. I realize some girls start very early, but all my mom did was get some books from the library (I love reading) and talked about what was in the books. I didn't get sex ed of any kind in school til 7th grade. The video was vague about things and focused mainly on the female side of puberty. Learning about what boys go through was something I wanted to know about after the video since it did suggest something was going on but never was clear about what. I always thought it unfair that I was expected to be secretive and ashamed of being on my period when everyone seemed to know about them already. I tried to talk my way out of swimming early on and my brother out right asked if I was on my period and when asked said he 'knew all about' them. I doubt that now, but at the time I was quite upset that everyone seemed to know about periods and yet they were for some reason supposed to be a secretive thing. I have since learned some of what boys go through, enough to satisfy my curiosity.

I was a very timid child. I tried hard to follow the rules as I saw them and never thought to question anything for fear of what might happen if I wasn't supposed to.

We were told in school around the age of 10. All the girls in 4th or 5th grade went to the auditorium and saw a film, and then teachers answered questions. That's probably why I heard about it from the neighbor girl when I was 8. She was a couple of years older, and it makes sense to me that she'd seen the film about menstruation that day and was excited about it, so she wanted to share the information. But I wasn't ready for it, the idea of bleeding terrified me. It's even possible she sensationalized it to make it seem more scary. She was that sort of kid, not a friend, more of a trouble maker, always sort of a gossip and drama creator, and I was a gullible, naive child, impressionable with a vivid imagination. I couldn't watch a lot of movies intended for kids because they scared me.

I've never wanted to have a period or anything else that was related to women. I started mine when I was 10 and a quarter. I had a massive, tearful meltdown until the month of my 11th Birthday. After that, I've resented it ever since than. I feel like a man on the inside and I really didn't want people knowing my gender to begin with.

I am thankful I never got one due to a medical condition.

I had that same feeling. I was ashamed of my period and hid it for a while until my mom found out. Even more so when my chest started growing to the point where my mom started making me wear bras. I was devastated because I didn't want to have breasts (still don't) and that also meant that my childhood was almost over.

Wow girls, that sounds rough...

Coming from a male perspective, when I first hit puberty and grew a few pubic hairs and my penis increased in size I was really enamored.

Afterward, I still tried to hide it. Of course, my mother already knew but I would wear loose fitting jeans, and the same baggy jacket over my shirt everyday trying to hide what was happening to my body; both from myself and others around me. I think this was due to my being content with the idea of remaining a child for the rest of my life.

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Mine started in the middle of summer in 1997. It was the 4th of July I remember. The period was very light and it was gone within a couple of days. It didn't hurt at all and I didn't know what to do about the blood in my panties so I yelled for my dad. Mom told me it was unusual because most girls don't yell for their dads to help them. I also felt uneasy about it because it meant I was growing up even more and took even a step further into puberty and I was no longer a little girl. It was just a little bit of blood. I remember being surprised about getting it. I was embarrassed about getting it for a while and pretty much everyone in 6th grade knew I got it because my period got heavy all of a sudden so I leaked and had a bloody accident. Somehow this boy in my class found out about it (I assume he noticed the blood) and he would say to me on the playground in front of the other 6th graders "how is your period?" and gosh it was so embarrassing. By the time I was 14, I wasn't so embarrassed about it anymore because almost all girls in my grade had it by then.

I was not pleased when I started to grow breasts. My mother had to kedep a close eye on me because I still attempted to get outside without a top on.
I hated the hairs coming up.

My parents had explained very meticulously about periods to me before I got them, yet still, when I started bleeding I thought I was going to die and I hid in my room and cried and didn't tell anyone. My mother guessed it though. I was 12

I'm still not particularly pleased with this whole physical arrangement, and I am 43 now.

I knew all about it in advance but it was still awful. I didn't use tampons until I was 18 (and had trouble with them for a while when I started) and didn't like using public restrooms so that made things even worse. I remember having to miss school many times from it and many sleepless nights not wanting to sleep too soundly and wake up with my bed looking like someone tried to stab me to death in my sleep.

I am so glad my periods are over with now. I had a hysterectomy last October.