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First of all, sexism is not the same as racism, certainly not in the parallel you are attempting. Saying "all black people are this" and "all Jews are that" are projections that reflect a desire to get rid of the offending group on some level. Nobody wants to get rid of women, so its a dubious comparison, at best.
How do you figure that in all cases it reflects a desire to get rid of the offending group on some level in all iterations?
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Second of all, what you are advocating, whether you realize it or not, is to make it against site rules to criticize women. Women are generally already above legit criticism on this forum as it is; making it against site policy is too stupid for words. This is why people engage in illegitimate criticism that often makes no sense and is more infuriating than fair criticism, because anyone who gives real criticism is usually ignored, mainly because this is the Internet and intelligence does not stand out. Or they are ridiculed and called weak, which brings me to point number three.
I question ideas and thoughts brought fourth by women all the time on here. I question OliveOilMom a lot on her beliefs. I criticize all the time. She has never once called me a sexist. No woman on here has called me a sexist or has tried to sensor me when I questioned them. They attempted to give me well thought out answers. Either they change their mind or I see an error in my reasoning and I change my mind. I criticize and question them all the time on many different topics. Even StarvingArtist has confirmed with me that she has not find me offensive in the slightest. What are you talking about? How do you derive the idea that one can't criticize a woman at all?
I've had heated debates with Tarantella as well and questioned her on things as well. I've become angry with her and I've apologized to her. Again, I've never been accused of being a sexist by her. In the end, everything is cool. OOM is cool person and so is Tarantella. I've never had these issues with any woman and criticizing them. So, what are you talking about?
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There is not anti-female bias on this site as much as anti-weak male bias, which inevitably leads to the kind of sexism that you describe. Any guy who is weak or whiny is wrong wrong wrong, and we don't want to encourage that. But this is the Internet, and it gets attention because we hate it so much. Making "sexism" against site policy, which is subject to interpretation of course, is putting an even bigger emphasis on the anti-weak male bias that already exists, which will make the sexism worse, not better.
Personally, I just think all of this is a cultural problem and to me these things are symptoms of the true problem which is the American culture itself. Nice guy syndrome is just a form of hustling and we live in a hustling based society in which everything is commodified including human relationships. We all have worth as people and instead of this our culture sees people as commodified resources instead of loving them and valuing them as people.
If we're to remove all of these isms from society then we need to question the ideas through many contexts.
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So nice idea starving artist, but it will make things worse more than likely. Maybe something else might achieve your goal a little better, but this isn't it. Not even a little.
Anyone can correct me if I'm want. All she wants and what the women want on here are to be seen as having intrinsic value and having intrinsic worth instead of being treated as commodities that can be bought and sold. This is the problem with nice guy syndrome.
Let's look at it this way. Do you want society to see you as having value and worth as a human being instead of a worthless commodity that can discarded and trashed. If yes, shouldn't we be consistent with our beliefs?
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