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tarantella64
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09 Jun 2014, 9:59 pm

FL, predatory men will take advantage of any woman who looks vulnerable and doesn' t know how to fend them off.

You need to find a counselor and talk to someone who does adult autism services near you, someone there needs to put you in touch with a women's-shelter/crisis-services person who understands spectrum disorders and can help you with this, also check in regularly with you. But yes, you should avoid strangers and social media, and also learn how to get away from men who are following you or pressuring you.

What can you find in the local listings about adult autism services and women's crisis services?



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10 Jun 2014, 1:52 pm

FautheralLoather wrote:
This is very sad, I wanted something like that for years but it never seemed of been hitting that way and what you had mentioned of me being disabled has hit me as a rock. This keeps on upsetting me that these sort of things just happen over and f***ing over again until the point on where I want to bash my f***ing brains out.

The sad part is in this matter that I had just gotten out of a way of my family taking advantage of me ( for free labor and other psychological reasons) Now it just seems that is has to be be this way until I die :(. It's not fair and Ill I do is try to build myself up as much as I can to get away and manifest what I can before I go, as I mean go I mean (dead). This world is too much for me and it seems like that its not for me as well.

People had asked if I had BPD and my mother also had it and I never had bothered of being diagnosed with it. I think I shall look into that when I can.


This is f***ing miserable.


I am sorry I am just venting a bit here. This does give me a cue on how I can find and exploit others on what they are doing to potentially harm me. If I wan this problem to end and end for good I should get some routes into that, but I am unsure if that is on my pace or not :/


Wanted something like what? Justice? Well when you are in that situation, its often hard to see a way out and it can be scary to face your abuser in court, so I don't blame you. Plus, if your family have been controlling and abusive, its no wonder that you never learned to spot when others are trying to take advantage of you. Autism or no, this is a pitfall for a lot if people in abusive relationships.

I don't think you should beat yourself up over this. Its not your fault that you are the way you are and its not your fault that you have been abused and exploited.

I'm no doctor, but bpd can run in the family so there's a good chance that you have it. I think you should at least see a counsellor that specializes in helping survivors of abuse. But, yes, please do ask your doctor if you can get assessed for bpd. But also be persistent - getting psychiatric support is a pain in the arse.

It doesn't have to be this way. You can overcome this.