Skirts and dresses: vulnerability from below

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I am considered feminine overall, but could never really stand wearing skirts or dresses. Now that you mention it, I think it was because of the vulnerability factor (I prefer jeans and sneakers) and reluctance to call attention to myself. That's also one reason I prefer not wearing makeup, or wearing heels. I hate exaggerating my looks.

I haven't worn a skirt or dress in ages. In fact, wearing a t-shirt with a cute or feminine pattern and black jeans is usually about as "dressed up" as I get. I didn't mind wearing them when I was a little girl though. In fact, I once wanted to wear nothing but dresses even when something else would have been more appropriate, like a swimsuit to the beach! My mom says my grandmother always wore dresses when she was a little girl, apparently most girls did back then, maybe I got some influence from her?

I was into wearing skorts for a while in the summer, because they looked like a cute skirt but I didn't have to worry about everyone seeing "London and France" if it was windy or I bent over.

Because little boys pull down little girls underwear. I should know. It happened to me. Twice. It happened to some of my friends too. Also, childhood is when you start teaching what is or isn't "ladylike." And I don't know how you liked to play, but I loved to attempt cartwheels and dangle from the monkey-bars, among other things. Also, pedophiles love to live near schools.

I wasn't talking about camel toes or men in spandex. I mean that you can see the shape of a woman's legs better in pants than in skirts.

I find all types of tight clothes disgusting, regardless of who's wearing it. Same goes for low-necked clothes. Personally I can't get my clothes baggy enough.


I didn't mind them until I was 9, and I liked two dresses (because I inherited them from my mother) and two others that my grandmother knitted for me.
Then I hit puberty and all of a sudden I started having more opinions on things like that. The next time I wore a skirt was for a rather formal and posh gathering when I was 13. I haven't since. I don't feel well in skirts or dresses.

Actually, now I understand what you're saying. That thing about pulling down the underwear makes sense. Happened to me. Yes little boys are like that. This thread suddenly makes sense to me. What a shame we have to think about things like that when we decide what to wear. Thing is though, when I was a child I refused to wear trousers because I found them so uncomfortable.

I balk at the word "ladylike".

Doesn't that rather depend on the length of the skirt/dress?

What is your opinion of men's kilts?

Well, I was never made to wear at skirt at school. A lot of girls at my school wore trousers. For some reason I still ended up wearing the dreaded thing (probably my gran's doing). But when I was at home, I wore trousers because I just found them more comfy. It wasn't so much the skirt I hated - it was either having to wear tights (which were always itchy and I had to adjust them every 30 seconds) or having to expose my bare legs to the elements (thank goodness I can get cheap leggings these days - they're basically like trousers). I honestly couldn't care less about modesty - skirts are just awkward and often don't sit right if you have a booty like mine. Not that trousers are always better, but I'd generally pick the latter for comfort.

I have never heard anyone say that trousers are immodest. Maybe tight fitting ones, but that's about it.

Employers usually have a unisex dress code or uniform, but I suppose it all depends on the job. I've never had to wear a skirt at work - I just felt it looked appropriate (and it was one of those skirts that didn't ride up my ass).

I don't wear trousers, always a skirt unless I feel the need to wear a dress. I'm a girly woman and I know it's more common for female Aspies to be more towards the androgynous.

I'd think the pants are a bit too tight if they cause that, but I certainly prefer tighter fitting pants...not to 'that' degree though, wouldn't it be uncomfortable if they where that tight?

I also wear skirts with a slit or flare skirts. For my formal wear keepsake the label skirts as comfortable wear.

Careful for what you wish for, let people be.

I had to wear skirts to private school for 3 years, and I hated it for many reasons, not least because it did make me feel more vulnerable in that environment. Some of the teachers were lechers who liked to stare at young girls, and wearing a skirt definitely left more exposed in my opinion. And they were excused because as we were told it was the female's responsibility not to arouse men. Very hypocritical standards.

I think being told you "have" to wear a certain thing by an authority figure, for whatever reasoning they give is what causes the feeling of vulnerability, especially when you are young and physically small, and especially when you are surrounded by other people who go along with that reasoning, however warped it is.

Now I really prefer to wear skirts, and I worry sometimes that it's because that crazy school brainwashed me. But it is practically impossible for me to find pants that fit, unless they are fitted really loose and just hang like a skirt.

Women don't understand, the shape of a woman's bottom half is a sexual trigger to men, skirts hide such, trousers don't, especially the way women have to wear them so tight.

This ^

I think most women understand this perfectly. It annoys me that clothing manufacturers follow this trend and make it so hard to find loose fitting pants.

Skirts don't make much difference though, I can't count how many times I've been called "J-lo" or had similar comments made about the shape of my ass, even while I was wearing a loose-fitting, A-line, midi skirt.