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21 Nov 2007, 9:07 am

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The moment I hit the school system.

So really the first moment I ventured out of the home environment and into the big wide world on my own.

I felt out of my depth from that moment on.

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Pretty much what I felt like too. It really only started to bother me big time when I was 16. I had been good friends with an older man but my mum made me stop talking to him. Then some people at my school who used to be friends with me started getting really catty and leaving me out of things.


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22 Nov 2007, 5:03 pm

Gads....1st grade, I guess..that is when I seriously and systematicly started getting bullied and mistreated by teachers. My teachers before that just thought I was quirky..i didnt even notice the fact that the other girls didn't like me because i actually had some male friends in my kindergarten class..just one or two..



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23 Nov 2007, 4:59 pm

I was most awkward in middleschool, after I went through puberty and reached a new level of self awareness.



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25 Nov 2007, 12:08 pm

gad...probably grade school. I was a 'loner', but I was bullied fairly frequently.

my problem was I spent a good 30 years with the condition, because it hadn't been included in the Psychiatrists' book of (whatever it was. Index of madness?..;) until the mid-90s. So it's sort of like being in Middle School (or Junior high) forever, in social terms.

It's been quite a relief to find out that I'm not alone here



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26 Nov 2007, 1:23 am

7 years old ish. was bullied lots. quite a loner.



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27 Nov 2007, 3:14 am

In the first grade...we were all supposed to be in the Christmas play, playing simple percussion musical instruments and I was super excited until I came home and told my mom about the play and she said I couldn't be in the play, I started crying, she slapped me in the face, and shook me until my teeth rattled....and she told me I was a mess, not normal and would never be ok....nice mom huh? and that was pretty much the beginning of an ongoing nasty relationship with my mom, that continues to this day (my mom is in her 70's now) just talking to her on the phone can make me go into a dark mood--I try not to have any contact with her, or as little as possible. All through school I was never able to have a girlfriend for more than two weeks, they'd always dump me for a cooler friend....still don't make friends easily...they always turn into predators who want something from me, or want me to do something for them, but they don't want my friendship...maybe my standards of what I think friendship is, is too high...I do have great penpals though, of people I've never met in person...and about 5 friends in real life, and a wonderful relationship with my daughter--my only child, whom I raised alone.



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28 Nov 2007, 6:14 pm

In Grade 1, when I was starting to notice that I wasn't getting invited to any Birthday parties.


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08 Jan 2008, 6:12 am

When I moved to another school in the 2nd grade. For some reason I was just really quiet and couldnt make friends and that was very obvious to me that something was messed up, I had selective mutism. I got used to not having any friends and I didnt have any till the end of junior year.



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08 Jan 2008, 7:58 am

In high school. I made some friends in nursery school and sticked with them throughout primary school. Then we went to high school, they made new friends and I became a lonely loser :?



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08 Jan 2008, 11:03 am

In kindergarten, I think. I wasn't a completely friendless kid, but I think I've always noticed that something was "off" or something.



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11 Jan 2008, 8:00 pm

When I was about 3. lol



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11 Jan 2008, 8:38 pm

I noticed my social life sucked, In the first grade after I changed schools (again).

I didn't have a concept of the people around me. Felt walled off and isolated like an ever persistant echo in my head. I met some common ground on the jungle gyms, but not common minds past who can perform more dangerously on them.


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12 Jan 2008, 1:36 am

For me it was mostly in middle school. I think I noticed that I wasn't popular before then, but I didn't realized just how much socializing outside of school that the other kids were doing until I was about 14. As a matter of fact, it wasn't until recently that I realized that other kids probably hung out after school almost everyday, and that's only because my 9 year old NT daughter never seems to be short on social invites.



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12 Jan 2008, 7:30 am

When I was in middle school...about 11 years old.
I started to notice that people had their "group" of friends, they spent time with them out of school. I didn't have this...infact, I didn't have any friends at all.


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13 Jan 2008, 1:37 am

Wabbits wrote:
In the first grade...we were all supposed to be in the Christmas play, playing simple percussion musical instruments and I was super excited until I came home and told my mom about the play and she said I couldn't be in the play, I started crying, she slapped me in the face, and shook me until my teeth rattled....and she told me I was a mess, not normal and would never be ok....nice mom huh? and that was pretty much the beginning of an ongoing nasty relationship with my mom, that continues to this day (my mom is in her 70's now) just talking to her on the phone can make me go into a dark mood--I try not to have any contact with her, or as little as possible. All through school I was never able to have a girlfriend for more than two weeks, they'd always dump me for a cooler friend....still don't make friends easily...they always turn into predators who want something from me, or want me to do something for them, but they don't want my friendship...maybe my standards of what I think friendship is, is too high...I do have great penpals though, of people I've never met in person...and about 5 friends in real life, and a wonderful relationship with my daughter--my only child, whom I raised alone.

i can relate to the high standards thing. I feel like i have high standards myself especially when i look at the people that claim to have multiple amounts of freinds ; when i look at some of their freinds i can see that they have low standards of whom their freinds are . I've lowered my standards just to conform but its not worth it in the longrun from what i've learned.

Anyways sticking to subject, i noticed my socail life sucked when i had to give up my imaginary freinds. I was 11 years old, i probally would have seemed very psychotic or weird if i kept them :P



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13 Jan 2008, 5:06 pm

Definitely middle school. I can remember talking to my dad about how I didn't have any friends when I was 12. I also remember my mom asking me why I didn't have any friends when I was 10. It devastated me when she asked me; the next day I went to school and tried to make a friend, which turned out horribly.