What's up with AS girls marrying so early...?

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One thing I've noticed about aspie girls is they tend to lack originality, from my experiences....with them.

So they get married, HOW ORIGINAL! Every young girl wants to do that because they are brainwashed by TV shows and "oh I need you to hold me !" Blah.

If only they knew living a more balanced, healthy and spiritual life is more fulfilling than early marriage. There is all the time in the world to get married later on, a female should become independent first. Or else you know the marriage won't last long, females without independence are very cumbersome.

I really fought hard not to be pressured into marriage by other people. I'm 26, and I have never had an LTR. Leave it to me to break a guy's heart. They never saw it coming. Nowadays people can't understand why I don't have at least a boyfriend. I would make a good mom, but kids were never feasible for me to consider, so I had to choose, and I had always told myself that I would never depend on a man in a relationship. I learned early on that I had to learn to take care of myself on my own, and until that day finally comes...

Con men.

I'll say this one piece. Getting married/engaged eary/too early in life, as it realtes to the Aspie/Autie population, isn't exclusive to girls and young women but that's exactly what post's title makes it seem like.

For example by the time my ex boyfriend turns 21 in early March he'll already have been engaged for just over a year. Call me wierd, old-fashioned or just plain prudish but I think 19 years old and in a new realtionship for only a year is too early to propose Aspie/Autie/NT, male/female allike.

In the area and family that I grew up in, it was expected for girls to get married out of highschool. I never fit in so I thought that getting married early would make it so that they (my family mostly) would accept and like me. It didn't really change things though and I was very glad when all of my family moved to Kansas (I'm in California). My husband & I have been married 22 years as of Aug. 2008. Fortunately for me, he accepts and loves me as I am. I have been incredibly lucky to have him.

I was engaged at 16, right before turning 17 after being with that guy (same age as me) for only like, 3 months, in a semi-long distance relationship.

Why? Because I didn't understand what the dating stuff was about, I thought that was just wasting time, and I hated wasting time. I thought, why waste time if you're both happy? Why not just be done with the little stuff and move on and get married if you both can see being with each other for forever?

Everything in the relationship fell apart, lol. He was paranoid, I was going too fast for him, and then too slow in other aspects, and we had split before I was 18. I still have the rings.

A year later, I have no idea why I wanted to get married. I don't know why I wanted to go so fast, considering most times I want out of relationships the instant I was in them. Or maybe that was why. Because I 'didn't' want out.

Anyway, I don't want to be married anymore. Just seems like...a waste of time.

But are they married to aspie guys? Some guys like to catch a wife early and then spend the rest of their marriage doing exactly as they please...and with whoever they please to do it with.

I never wanted to get married, have sex or have children.

Until i met my husband when i was 16, we got engaged shortly after that and married right after i turned 18 (he was 23) Almost 7 years and 2 kids later and we're still very much in love and very much happy. He was my first boyfriend as well.

Why did we get married young? Because we're muslim and don't believe in intimate relationships outside of marriage. He's the most amazing man i've ever met, who treats me with the most respected i've ever received from a man. I'm into the more traditional roles of man and wife and they work for us. I don't think i;d call myself emotionally immature, but i am pretty naive and dependant. The typical (or stereotypical?) aspie emotional immaturity, rather than preventing the relationship, would set some characteristics in it.

Let me also say that some of you people who come in here saying Marriage is pointless, people who do it are *insert insulting judgement here* need to get your heads out of your behinds and realize that marriage may only be a peice of paper and a ring to you, and it may mean something more sacred to others. It's not your place to say what it means as if it should mean that for everyone, particularly those of us who have religious beliefs attached to marriage

As for the insulting tone about Islamic Divorce, you really should do some homework before you make statements on someone elses beleifs. A man CANNOT say Talaq (i divorce you) 3 times at once, it is a sin to do so, it is invalid. He can say it twice and then they have to wait a certain period of time (a month or 3 months, i'm not sure) before he says the 3rd. Divorce is considered the most HATED by Allah of the permissible things, so if a man is religiously committed and educated, then this will not be an issue of easily divorcing for his desires. As for how a woman is divorced. A woman is also required to have a male guardian (father if he is not able then brother if he is not able then uncle and if there is none then a trusted, religious man in the community) to get married, this is so that she has someone who will look out for her interests (and again, if they are religious, they will look out for her interests and abuse of this would not be a problem) and prevent any injustice done to her in the marriage process and likewise in the divorce process, this is to PREVENT the husband from abusing his rights. She will get her rights without having to fight for them because there will be religious and educated mediators making sure of this. Once again, divorce is not something religious muslims take lightly, it is the most hated of all allowed things, and is only allowed in cases where there is no hope of reconciliation and all other means of it have been exhausted.

People make the mistake of judging Islam by Muslims or Sharia by the laws of "muslim" lands. Islam is perfect and Muslims are NOT and there is not a single country on this planet that is ruled by Sharia, period. Also i'm a convert and so my view on these things is not mixed with Culture before you write me off based on that.

My rule is be at least 21 and married to have children, so you can enjoy school and study better in college, but once that baby is born NO MORE FREEDOM!! ! Crying, screaming, dirty diapers, drooling, vomiting, stretch marks, teething, morning sickness, mood swings, post pardon depression, money problems, bullies, diarrhea, boo-boos, emergency room visits, bed wetting, puberty, divorce, heartbreak, PMSing, embarrassment.

Reasons why I don't want children, I have VERY sensitive hearing that stops me from leaving the house and it makes me depressed.

I got married at 19. We'd been living together for 2 years at theat point. Why? Because I was in love, and we'd both run out of student visas to be together. Luckily, marriage was a possibility for immigration. So, basically, I had a really good reason TO, and only some silly societal worries against.

We won't ever have chicldfren. I'd be a terribly mother, and constant, 24-hour exposure to kids woulfd drive me around the bend.