Feeling really stupid and a bit sexually harassed at school

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That's a brilliant idea. Mind if *I* use it?

I really wish I had taped him, but it's too late now... The one guy that has the class taped won't give me copies either..

This teacher goes on and on about certain ethnic groups, making fun of them, etc. he was
reprimanded last term for making fun of lesbians, this term it's mexicans, transexuals,
etc.. He picks one group of people to make fun of.. He seems to direct his expletives
right AT me.. It's not like I haven't heard the "f-word" before or frick this frickin' that..
whatever.. he just seems to direct them right AT me, like he's hoping I'll complain or
something.. He even said "Every term someone complains and he took a pen and pointed
it right at me when he said "someone".. and that was before I had any problems with
him".. He was doing that to try and turn the class against me.. He has picked on me and
made fun of me and even got the whole class to laugh at me after I said I was having eye
trouble but I happened to be the first to find the answer in the book. I was having eye
trouble because i couldn't see the board... from in the very back.. I was trying to get my
seat back that was up front..

Well to make a long story short.. ha.. if that's possible for me.... I have now lost any hope
of having an internship because I actually went and complained about this creep of a
man...

The adviser somehow thinks that I am offended by "bad language"...yeah.. like thats why
I'm upset... Apparently the teacher convinced the adviser that was the problem instead of
everything else the teacher does.. it has NOTHING to do with his language... But now, any
chance of my having an internship is OVER. The adviser told me that the internship I had
been interested in sometimes had foul language.. I was like THAT IS NOT THE PROBLEM
with the teacher!! ! The adviser even started using the word "crap" in class when he teaches
my other class. but It's not that the word "crap" offends me.. it's that the teacher brings
up the subect of human excrement at every opportunity.. It's ridiculous.. He even says
"brown is my favorite color" and laughs about it.. he goes on and on about the expression
"bulk dump" in MIDI about human bowel movements for THIRTY MINUTES!! !! !! !! The guy is
sick and apparenytly into s**t... literally... but Do I HAVE to hear it ALL the time?? He
called my home state a "cesspool".. I'm serious, every word out of this guys mouth
pertains to Human bowel movements.. I"M NOT KIDDING..... but somehow my adviser is
just under the impression that I find the word "crap" offensive!! !! !! !?????????????

I have worked for TWO years to get this certificate to be able to work in the music
technology field.. and it all comes down to this.... This ONE man ruining it for me... I hate
this....

Because I tried to complain, I AM THE ONE TO SUFFER>. It seems like I am always the one
to suffer.. I feel like I should just give up on higher education altogether and forget about
trying to work for other people.. I am so down about this... I don't know what I'm going to do for a living now..

I feel like hurting this man....... (not that I actually would.. but that's how I feel now..)

LG

Should I report this?
A teacher touched my arm right below my shoulder, my friend says her teacher was fired for that and a detective called to their school...

Complain directly to the dean of the college. If you feel you need to tape a class session. This guy should be reported and fired.

I think it's too late. I didn't tape the class.. My adviser was told about it.. he thinks I just don't like "cuss words".... it's much more than that.. but anyway, I'm glad to be leaving that program.. I guess someone else is going to have to deal with it now because this week is exam week. If this guy tries to give me a lower grade than what I feel I deserve, All hell will follow and I WILL write up a huge complaint about his class and DEMAND a better grade... we'll see.....

I appreciate everyone's comments and advice. I will know in the future not to ever tolerate a teacher like that again.. and I WILL start taping it immediately.. even if it is my last semester.... I was afraid that if I dropped the class, I would never get the certificate because I can't go another semester to that same school.. this was it... no more terms.. so I couldn't withdraw from any classes.. I felt like I had to endure it.. but once I get the certificate, I might write someone about it further.. we'll see..

thanks again. I'm just glad it's almost over!!

L

Felinity, I have made stupid mistakes like that too... welcome to the club. I have a problem paying attention and therefore that slows me down because not all of me is there trying to figure out what they're saying and instead part of me is daydreaming, so without the help of the other part of me I'm slower... and then I finally get it hours or days or weeks or months later.

i remember when i was ten, i had breasts already and was
wearing training bras, i had this male classmate who was
disgusting and brushed his arms against them every chance
he could..i felt horrible, couldn't do anything to fight him off..
i was relieved we moved the next year, never saw that
stupid boy again.

Walk up to your advisor and use every expletive you can think of in a 3 minute conversation asking for the internship.

Filinity or anyone else, I hope you don't mind me posting since I am a guy.

Agreed

I feel bad for you and the others who have experienced sexism from guys.

Indeed

Being the only female in the class must be extremely difficult for you since your on the spectrum. I hope that things in the class as well as your life in general, become better for you soon.

I think that it is disgraceful that he has turned the boys in the class against you! By what you have told us, the teacher and your advisor are both being unprofessional.

As well as with kind guys who care about you such as myself.

I am saying this from my experience with two ICT courses: It seems do a more technical subject and likely to end up with some idiot guy teaching it. Both times idiot guys for Hardware and Software, as well as on the second course an idiot guy for Networking. Where as women for both courses would teach less technical subjects.

Male teachers pft! I tend to get on much better with female teachers.

I think that it would be great for more females to be doing male dominated subjects! Unfortunately sexism can put female students off the subject entirely.

a) You aren't stupid - he is.
b) Report the bastard - it's called sexual assault.

That teacher sounds BEYOND appalling, and your advisor clearly is not doing his job either. Is there anyone you can go to above your advisor? A dean or head of department? This is completely unacceptable behaviour. Offensive subjects aside, your teacher should be reprimanded simply for spending so much time off-topic!

It's a shame you didn't manage to tape any of the classes - I would seriously pursue the student who does have a tape that you mentioned before. If that fails, write as objective a report as you can - keep it brief and to the point, and don't let your emotions affect it - be very factual. Then, after your exams are marked, submit it to a SENIOR member of staff. Try not to get angry or emotional in the meeting.

And if your advisor blames your offense at this disgusting situation on a sensitivity to foul language again, frankly, I'd reply, "No, I don't f*****g have a problem with foul f*****g language!"

Of course, that probably isn't the wisest or most mature response.....

Best of luck.