Can Aspies be good at "faking" it?

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Yes; "faking it" seems to be how the majority of female Aspergians get by- myself, included. However, one does not always fake a persona; some people are so good at observing social situations, that they try to incorporate what they've picked up on, instead of losing themselves completely by "faking it"- I also do this from time to time.

That's like me with school, however I'm now vowing to no longer "fake it" when I start at my new Sixth Form in September; if I meet people and they like me for who I am then so be it, if they don't then I just won't give a crap.I tend to avoid parties, however at my school prom I just danced and sang along so I didn't have to socialize...it kept me occupied.

I like what you said about singing and dancing.

One way to find a way out of faking it in social situations is to find the Third Way. The First Way is to be authentically ourselves, that self that we reserve for our alone time or when in good company- the self we wish we Could be; the Second Way is the Mirror or a version of the person we are talking to or a version of the person we think we Should be; the Third Way is to decide that we are in a situation, an uncomfortable one at that, and find a way of addressing the discomfort such as by standing silently against the wall observing others but not necessarily interacting; or when on the bus and somebody is touching you, courteously ask them to step away or respect the mid-line on the seat. I do this on occasion with men.