If you're an attractive young woman with Aspies

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From posts on this forum and others, it has been my observation that aspie women enjoy sex MORE than nt women. There are SOME aspie women who have interest in sex at all, but they are just as rare as the aspie men who feel the same.

My dh and I DO have 3 small children who exhaust and distract us. Yet we still manage to find the time at least once a week, if not twice. That's much higher than the average amount of intercourse for people who have children.

So there you go!

I sometimes feel quite disconnected from men. I identify with what someone mentioned earlier about feeling aroused but somehow very detached from the moment. I occasionally attract men but I think my manner puts them off or the bizarre things I say. Its just my perception does'nt fit in with the male way, the ego, the ring of macho mates. I feel attracted to gay men who are on more of the same wave length they are usually really beautiful too which usually ends it heartache!

Guys hate me, and I certainly don't want sex from them.

I am still waiting for one who sees something other than my appearance and oddities. Mostly, I have resigned myself to being single the rest of my life.

Me too. Wish I could figure out what to do about it.

I get along better with NT and AS guys than women... I tend to attract the respect of NT men who know me, however if I had a dollar for every time I've been cat-called and wolf-whistled, I would well...have a lot of money; this is just factual (I'm not a hag, not a supermodel, but a fit, young woman with long, dark hair... meeting just those criteria alone is enough to earn the unwanted attention de los hombres)

I've only been able to get sexual satisfaction from my current partner; never anyone else

It's very rare I get young guys attracted to me, but I do get older men attracted to me.

Getting attention from guys is not a problem for me but the problem is that I'm mostly not attracted to guys that are attracted to me. I did get hit on by girls though. Is this an aspie thing? or is it because I'm tomboyish... Another thing is I tend to get along better with guys than girls. Girls are too complicated and there is always some kind of drama.

We do not have "Aspies"; we are "Aspies"!

I have never had too much difficulty getting laid, especially once I figured out that the odds were in my favor. Guess what, being straightforward with dudes who like women about the fact that you want to hump them is VERY effective! Except for when they're so taken aback by a woman openly propositioning them that they get shy or can't form sentences.

Love this.

I don't think I have a problem attracting guys... My problem is to stay more than friends with them... Almost every guy I've had a relationship with broke up because of missing feelings for me... Their feelings just seem to disappear after a couple of months and of course it makes me think about what's wrong with me... Everyone keeps saying that I'm too good for all these guys but it's hard to believe when you're heartbroken...

They all say I'm a good friend because of my loyalty and the ability to say what I mean without thought... My latest x-boyfriend even said I was everything he was looking for in a girl but the feelings just wasn't there... O_o

Yes. I did more so when I was 50 pounds heavier. It's easier now but I have a bf so I guess it works.

Sexual satisfaction? Whoooole different ball game. I never had an orgasm in my life. Didn't know girls could masturbate until I was 19 and never really get aroused unless my bf is there so I don't really masturbate. I hope I figure it out someday.

I was in a similar situation. The advice I've heard is to try to explore your fantasies until you find something that appeals to you. Good luck.

As for attracting guys, I've been told that I'm cute, have nice legs etc., but I've had very little attention from men. I've generally been the pursuer in the relationships I've had. Furthermore, with the exception of my last relationship, my boyfriends have always been somewhat disinterested in sex, so not much satisfaction in that area until late. (Yay aspie boyfriend!)

I've been told that I intimidate most guys. Moreover, the ones I'm apt to like are far too shy to approach me (there is just something so irresistable about the shy wallflower types...makes you want to pluck them). I imagine there are ways that women convey that they are looking for a relationship without being extemely forward about it but they continue to ellude me.

I try fantasizing but I never seem to get anywhere. Maybe it's because I don't have a lock on my door and grandma's room is right across the hall from mine. They switched my doorknob to one without a lock when I hit puberty. Can't have her exploring her own body, Jesus would hate that! I'm in one of those moods where I feel pessimistic about everything so don't mind me.