When men say you're not like other women

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"You're not like other women." == "You like me."

I have had this said to me a lot. It really depends on the person. Yes, it has been used as a pick up line. But I have had very sincere men say the same thing. Context is important I think. Where are you? Who is the individual? Did you just meet? Is it the second or third time meeting/communicating? I take it as a compliment and carry on the conversation if I am interested or say thanks and move on.

I reply with "Maybe you haven't met many women" sometimes. Or I say that every woman is different. Something along those lines. I think saying "You're like not other women" is really weird. It feels weird.

People, not just men, say this to me.
I'm sure they more likely meant "special" and I will take it as such.

Like 'special needs special', not whatever that supposed to flatter a woman of their ego; related to their femininity and their attractiveness.


Yes, there is infantilization -- for me to make do with this impression, is to make others more predictable with like how they would try and treat me like another female.

At least it's not dehumanization -- that would be a headache to deal with.

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"You're not like other women."

"Why?"

"You like Star Trek."

Lol, this was my ex-boyfriend, who obviously thought only males like Star Trek.

Maybe you gals are overthinking this a little bit? Why not just ask: "In what way?" and move on from that.

I know I'm not like other women.
I'm not like other people, period.
I'm not saying I'm better, but I'm very ... atypical.

I just think it’s yet another line your typical guy will use to try to get in your skirt. Most guys words don’t actually seem to mean anything. It’s just a means to an end with us women.

Call me arse about, but I couldn't use that line because it seems divisive.
Compared to men I find most women wonderful, so emphasising difference seems insulting to me.
On the other hand..."yes...I want to party in your pants...or any other woman's in the room" doesn't sound like a winning strategy.

Is there really any essential difference between saying, "You are not like other women" and saying, "You are just like all the other women".

Both seem equally judgemental and naïve (and likely incorrect, as well).