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13 Nov 2015, 11:59 pm

dianthus wrote:
goofygoobers wrote:
I admit, I don't quite understand the whole chameleon thing when women are describing their experience with having Asperger's Syndrome. I've subconsciously copied people, but I'm VERY far from being a chameleon. I'm more like a strobe light amongst a bunch of regular lights.


I think for those of us who tend to be a chameleon, it doesn't necessarily mean we are always good at it. I have a way of blending in, but people still notice little things about me that are different or odd to them and they do comment on it.


Me too. It can all come crashing down quite horribly. It's more a question of being so anxious in a situation that being myself is not possible because I can no longer remember who I am or what I feel.



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16 Nov 2015, 4:51 pm

I've always felt this way. Even still today, I mirror some actions or play a role to fit into an environment. I did it mostly growing up and up until the first year of college. While I do it on and off, I try to be myself or just do whatever people are supposed to do in social situations.

Sometimes I feel like the acting helped. It took a lot of practice to maintain in social situations, but now, it's much harder. I opt out of a lot of socializing which hurt more than help, which I'm now seeing wasn't such a good idea.

I wound up with a lot of identity problems and this just played one role in that. Even now, I'm learning more about myself.



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16 Nov 2015, 11:56 pm

Ways in which I am a chameleon: Being in a crappy mood and somebody comes along and cheerfully asks me how I'm doing. I say "good, good, good." Then I go back to being in a crappy mood.

Ways in which I'm not a chameleon: When people ask me "How are you?" I will respond negatively or let them know I don't like that question.