I hate being a woman

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I have struggled a lot with hormonal imbalance, severe pms, difficult periods, etc. One thing I have learned is there is always a reason for feeling the way I do.

If you hate being a woman, you will be at war with yourself, and your body and hormones will follow suit. Your feelings about your gender will *cause* the very conditions you hate.




Me too.

Welp, it f***ing happened again!

I had yet another meltdown resulting in my breaking my husband's Rubix cube. We got it fixed, but one row seemed to be looser than the others. My husband seems to think I am ungrateful because of this, which led to another meltdown. It got so bad, he threatened to sleep downstairs. This was the first time this has ever happened, and it left me heartbroken.

Every night that I have a meltdown, I pray to God to take me, because I feel I am a burden to everyone. Hell, I don't even deserve marriage; whenever I melt down, my husband would feel sad and frustrated at me, as if I hurt his feelings. I wish I was as perfect as Jesus or any other NT.

The new birth control pills could be part of the problem or making it worse. I'd talk to my gyno about the meltdowns and try a different birth control until I found one that wouldn't cause the meltdowns.

When I got my IUD, I started having meltdowns every 45 days even though I wasn't physically having a period. I realized (like some of the others mentioned) that I was reacting extremely to things that normally bother me a little bit and usually shrugged off or could address calmly, but when my hormones were out of whack became massive triggers.

I am still particularly embarrassed of one of these meltdowns that happened the day after I got the IUD in which I had at a party we had (there was alcohol involved too, very bad planning, get IUD, then have a drinking party...).

The IUD is supposed to be lower levels of horomones/less systemic, but caused me to be more easily triggered into meltdowns (before I had it I really only ever had shut downs and very very rarely melted down). So, I think it can take a bit of experimenting to a find a birth control that doesn't cause these swings.

Anyway, this is one of my first posts here, but don't hate yourself. No one is perfect and this sounds like it's probably a medication issue if these regularly scheduled meltdowns are a new thing with the new birth control.

There is a condition called 'Irritable Male Syndrome' which is the male equivalent of PMS. basically, testosterone in men peaks at various times of the day, making them more prone to irritability. Men that have this condition get mood swings throughout the day....Every. Single. Day. At least I can use a period tracker and I have a whole month to prepare for the worst.

Maybe you need to switch the birth control? What hormone is it, oestrogen? Some women are better off on progesterone. In fact, I'm thinking about getting an implant for that.

Yeah, periods suck, I know the feel. I get really painful periods and it makes me super sensitive. You're in good company.

^I don't have too many side effects from Junel Fe (the pill), but I did have to switch the Zoloft for the Lexapro because it wasn't working as well as I thought it would. The Lexapro was recommended to me because it has very few side effects, and it works most days.