Is Intercourse Satisfying?

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Err...that sometimes happens in committed romantic relationships / marriages, but sex is normally NOT part of the deal in FRIENDSHIPS ! ! Unless I am missing something here ???

And even in marriages, differences in sex drives or one partner's disinterest in sex is not always a deal breaker. So I don't see how it can finish off a "friendship" when its presence in the first place is a big ???

In her OP it was clear she was talking about a relationship. I am not sure why she is mentioning friends in her other posts.

It is a relationship, but not a committed one, on his end. Well, not on mine either, but it's not for lack of trying.

Listen, Ann, this guy is a USER - why buy the cow when you can get the milk anytime you want ?

I think he is too, however it is reciprocal by her own admission. An unhealthy kind of reciprocation, where one party isn't getting enough out of it. What constitutes a fair exchange is subjective, becuase what makes people happy is subjective.

Whether or not f**k baddies is a viable idea or not is a different question. This is an unhealthy relationship from the subtext.

Also I disagree with trying to get him to agree to a relationship, by not having sex. What does a relationship even mean at this stage? It is over.

Yes ok, but what do you want to do about it?

It took me a while to enjoy intercourse. The problem is I just got bored during it and I never liked skin against my bare skin especially if it gets sweaty, I don't like having it when the room is hot. Just as long as I am talking to my husband and the room isn't hot and my husband isn't naked, intercourse doesn't matter and I only like having it when I am laying down. I never liked doggy style or other positions and it's all boring and uncomfortable and I find it exhausting to having to move my body during it because it's a chore and it's like working out. I could live on without having it but I have it because it's important to my husband. For years I would avoid doing things that would turn him on or else he would want sex and I didn't want it so I found ways to avoid it and I would even avoid being in the same room with him or else he would have gotten turned on and want sex. So for years I would live in the same apartment but never go in my own bedroom where he is or he could get turned on and want to have sex. I look back and see "now what was the whole point in that relationship if you are spending your time in it avoiding your partner because they could get turned on and want to have sex? And there you are watching what you do that your partner finds sexual so you won't do that act. Oh I better not wear this around him or he will get turned on and want to have sex. I better not do this in front of him or he might get turned on and want to have sex." This was my life. That might sound incompatible but the reason why I am with him is because he accepted me and loves me the way I am and is very understanding I might not find another man like him. And he doesn't want sex all the time and he can't have it all the time anyway or else he will get too sore and when he has been on his feet for too long, he isn't able to have it anyway and his sex drive isn't high and I think it was only high then because I wouldn't have it with him. Then once I started to let him have it with me, his drive went down.

Then once I started to let him have it with me, his drive went down.

I just spat coffee all over my monitor ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! I know that you didn't intend this to be hilarious, but this has got to be the FUNNIEST post ever ! ! !

I was frowning when I started reading your post, then turned incredulous around the middle part (really and honestly, that middle portion is WTF-ish like nothing else !) and then LOLOLOLOLOLOLOL-ed so much at the last sentence to the point that I now have to clean up my monitor !



You do realize how that comes across to other people, don't know, my dear ?

I found that quite patronising.

I was confused by it. I found nothing that funny about LG's post. I can relate to her experience.