I attract people with learning difficulties/lower IQ

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I am strangely attracted to this fred

I don't think we are all going round commenting on people's intelligence in real life. Don't worry. No one in this thread is that clueless or rude.

But in defence of the thread, you have different kinds of conversation with intelligent and less intelligent people.

My sister's mother-in-law is no where near as intelligent as my sister and they just don't get each other. Their perspectives are totally different. My sister is interested in all sorts of things and enjoys learning. The MIL just likes her own bubble and doesn't care to move outside of it or learn anything new. That lack of interest in anything really stifles conversation.

Intelligence can be a factor in finding a relatable friend who you enjoy spending time with.

I'm glad you've never had an issue with it, but it is a factor in whether to some of us feel enjoyment in other people's company.

It's a factor in why we can still feel incredibly alone, lonely and misunderstood even though we have friends.

I've just noticed that this is in the women's section. I arrived here via the recent posts page originally.

So the theme here is female friendships.

I do find that my interests are often not very stereotypically female and therefore it is more difficult to find buddies to go with me or join me.

I'm really into music. My friends are too, but they like more mainstream pop, so it's great that I have friends to go and see pop groups with, but I won't be able to find anyone to go see Erki Pärnoja with if he ever tours the UK. I want to go and see Aldous Harding, but I know no one else who likes her music. I'll just go by myself.

Imagine trying to find someone into 12-tone music!

I’ve had many female friends who are feminine, and don’t really have too many “female” interests.

I don't just attract people with learning difficulties, I get on with people with learning difficulties.

Most people with learning difficulties are in menial jobs. One of my (low IQ) friends is in her 50s and only has ever had part-time cleaning jobs. I feel NTs with average/high IQ are too intelligent for me and probably secretly judge me for being in a part-time cleaning job at my age, as most NTs my age work full-time unless they have children (which I don't).

I think my IQ is below average too. But I feel I belong with others below average.

Not many low-IQ people are good writers.

I don’t sense you have a low IQ.

^ Want to name names?

It would give me a massive boost if somebody told me I was highly intelligent. I think I would rather be funny though.

I think intelligent people are often "extremely creative" and "extremely emotional".

I don’t disagree with that, and have said so previously.