Should I be creeped out or flattered? (Guys can respond too)

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Merele:

I remember it like it was yesterday, instead of 40 years ago.....and the pole put a dent in my skull. Ah, well. I can dream.

Btdt

I visted a city to do a college visit this weekend and, after the campus tour, my older sister and I (I'm 16) went to a movie theater to see 21, you know, that movie about blackjack and card counting. Both Arron Yoo (Attractive Korean guy from Disturbia), and that british guy from Across the Universe were in it, so we knew that, even if we hated it, we could not be entirely bored.
Anyway, the theater was empty until around 10 minutes before the previews began and then all these college kids filed in until it was almost full. Anyway, when it ended, I didn't really like it too much for two reasons; First off, because I thought the plot was silly, and secondly because the character's eye colors were inconsistant. In one scene the girl had one brown eye and one blue eye! You'd think they'd edit more carefully but, no....
As my sister and I were filing out of the row, I paused to let some people in the seats above us leave first. I didn't want to cut in front of them because that's rude, right? But the guy I tried to let past stopped and said to me, "After you, Beautiful." I sort of looked at him with a WTF expression and then he winked at me. Taken aback, of course, I said a quick "thank you", walked past him, and then continued my conversation with my sister about the eyecolor inconsistancies. It was weird.
I mean, he's a college guy, so it's sort of creepy. But then again, he's a college guy so its also sort of flattering.

Should I be creeped out or flattered?

Again, guys can respond to this topic if they want to. I just felt silly putting it under 'love and dating' since neither 'love' nor 'dating' are really directly involved.

That explains a lot! I am thinking back on some inexplicable behavior that I've witnessed from men, and it really clears it up.

Seriously, are we on a AS forum talking about other people people doing things that are difficult to socially interpret?

OP, the guy made a polite gesture and complimented you. Someday you'll be 35 and that would be the best thing that happened to you all week!

Would you rather have him bump you out of the way and call you a hag?

You should be slightly flattered. It's not really a big deal. He wouldn't have done it if he didn't think you were good looking, though, hence, you should be flattered.

Sure he might have. Some guys do it just to add a little happiness to a woman's day. I've been known to call old ladies "Miss" to make them smile.

Of course, I've been known to call 30 year old women "ma'am" when they annoy me, too.

Thanks for the responses, everyone. (:

I know he was just being polite by letting me pass, but the wink threw me off a bit.
I mean, who winks? It was just kind of strange. :?

By the by, Kalister, your sarcasm is very entertaining. :lol:

Don't read too much into the wink. Fact, you're 16, probably cute and young looking. College guy was not flirting, but saying you are cute but probably not old enough for him. It's okay to be flattered, but AS's have a tendency to grasp something trying to uncover the meaning as it pertains to them, but in fact has meaning for one second and no longer, or no meaning at all.
But . . . you are REALLY SMART to ask. That is a VERY SMART AS move, using your head. Right on!!