Do/Did you get along with your mother?

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Most of the time we get along, we arent really that close though/

NO! No way! Can't stand the woman! And it's mutual.
Never got allong with her, ever since I said straight out that I liked Dad better, (About 4 years of age) and wondered why she started crying.
Now every day is a battle just putting up with her.

My mother refuses to "get it". She has major issues going on-- she was abusive to me when I was growing up and so forth. And now she still fails to understand that I am this warm and fuzzy empathetic person. And I won't be. So she gets hurt over that. I find it kind of funny-- she gets hurt over my not being empathetic over her being hurt. She's always "hurt". I told her many years ago I couldn't help her with her emotional needs- she needs to find that elsewhere.

I used to think that the whole concept of motherhood was this wierd thing and that mothers didn't really exist-- not as people. That the idealogical entity could not coexist with the actual woman. Now I'm not sure how I feel. I think there are good mothers, bad mothers, ok mothers, etc.

Same as the first poster. Never did.

She was an NT and thought she could beat us into being the same. There's a point at which you cannot turn back. We passed that when I was about 14.

I used to get along with my mother until recently. I went away to college (her idea) and she is paying for just about everything. She is using her money to control me. Further more she refuses to believe I might have AS (i'll be getting my official diagnosis in april, i'm pretty sure myself i have it and i need help). She acts like i'm lying and that it's nothing but an excuse. She was always hard to get along with and while dealing with her taught me how to act sympathetic towards people most of the time, it's a one way street and because of her i don't know how to fight for myself or even know my own needs and ask for things. She also accused me of being just like my father ("IF YOUR FATHER WERE A GIRL HE'D BE JUST LIKE YOU!") because you know, the father is EVIL! and she can do no wrong. I hate that stupid b***h now and i wish i had my own money.

I don't know where i stand with my mother. My mother and I have no relationship, i don't care for her life ever since she devorced my dad so we're almost strangers livin in the same house. I probably wouldn't care if she died because i know that in a few more years she will be gone and i will have seas between us and i know i will be safe. I know that what caused this relationship is her choice of boyfriend (she chose my friends father who is an a***hole and wasn't at all understanding towards his daughter whom was raped at 13 and lost her viginity at the age of 11 and he basically ruined her by kicking her out of his house at 16).

Basically I am slowly letting her go and it's feeling better every day.

My mother and I used to get into almost daily screaming matches during
my preteen and early teen years. I can still easily put myself in a
foul mood just by thinking about some of those fights. We eventually
reached a sort of balance of power and things cooled off, but we
weren't close and from that point on I always felt like my
relationship with her was an adversarial one.

I have to admit that she did a lot of things right, though, and at
times she understood me fairly well even though I wasn't an easy kid
to figure out at all.

My mom is very loving and supportive and artitic..etc...Seems to have alot of aspie traits herself...but I gots weird deeply rooted issues....
Have trouble being comfortable around her..Hanging out with the folks kinda puts me into "shutdown" mode..

Me and my mum both get on and don't get on. We're very different so we clash, but she's very open about her feelings so although I often don't understand her she is marginally easier to understand than my father who is quite an enigma. I'm more like him, though, quite closed (I don't feel the need to discuss my feelings, and often don't really acknowledge to myself that I am experiencing a specific emotion, or understand it). She finds me hard to understand because of this. But her nurturing instinct and the fact she can see good in me overrides the negative she sees in me and the difficulty she has with me most of the time.

I think my mum's ace.

After reading all four pages I'm struck by the polarity of the responses: we either love or hate or moms - no in-between. I didn't count the responses but it seems pretty evenly split.

In my case I think the reason I've had such a poor relationship with my mom is that she's on the spectrum without a clue, completely in denial, and when I was a kid, not only did she have a hard time showing love and affection, but I was unable to reciprocate it, so she gave up trying to show it. My theory is that, both of us being OTS, there was no way for her to show love or for me to feel it, and that problem will never be solved, no matter how "nice" she tries to be now.

I know, on the other hand, my Dad loved me, and the irony is that he died two years ago, while my mom will probably outlive me.

I had a good relationship with my mom, she is one of the 3 NTs that can really stand me.

I hate my mum!!

I can't stand mine either. I moved 3000 miles away the week I graduated from high school. She keeps following me west, which is one reason I'm in Hawaii. If she comes here I'm moving to New Zealand...

i love my mom but it feels more of a sympathetic/pity love sometimes. She has been though loads and loads and has always been there for me, my brother and sister. But more and more, and esically now, I cant stand her. Even durring good times, she plays little games and things. Like she pulls a pity card or asks us to do little dirty work like wont notice and thinks she can get away with it and she can do whatever she wants because she has done so much for us. She acts like a down right spoiled brat sometimes. I still love her and know she will always be there, but I just can't live with her (or even talk to her sometimes on the phone or internet!).

my dad is abusive and twisted and a deadbeat and I dont know where he is and my step dad (well, they werent really married, but he lived with us and was real great) and my mom just seperated because he has some medical problems and my mom has a million medical problems and everyone thinks everyone else is the crazy one.