Who doesn't want babies?

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Not in 48 years have I wanted to have children. For such reasons as: passing on genetic flaws, being unable to care for them, kids are annoying and extremely needy. But mostly I don't understand why people want to have kids. I would have expected reproduction to have been the exception rather than the rule; especially since people no longer need kids to look after them in their old age.
Too many people who reproduce shouldn't, the world is teeming with idiots. I envision a world where only 30% reproduce and only when circumstances are ideal. By ensuring that the most functional come into existence, civilization could be a lot more effective. It seems that so many of our resources are spent on children, we keep investing "in the future," why don't we try investing in what we already have.
Valuing the creation of life but not life lived is stupid. But we just keep feeding the machine and it keeps getting bigger.

Younger I wanted to, now I feel too old, it's like my body is telling me so. Or it might be my head. I would find no appeal in being a single mother. I think about how I am - solitary - and the impact on another human being who would depend on me and grow with no other experience. Nothing to do with feeding and nurturing well. I already thought about that before, and made a choice. Now I might have a "gifted" kid out there. Thinking too much then and now? Hopefully he's happy and well. Never again.

I really badly wanted kids when I was younger. I had younger siblings, so it's in my nature to care for kids. My mother is on the spectrum, or if she isn't she's an inch from being on it, and I can see how that made it difficult for her to raise us. She did an amazing job, especially considering she's currently raising her second autistic child, but I don't feel the urge to live her life over again. I have chosen a career where I'll often have to move around the world. That's difficult for any child, but I believe it's really no life for an autistic child, and since there's a reasonable chance I would have one, I've just decided it's better not to. Sometimes I still fantasize about holding a child in my womb, and breast feeding. I'm bitterly disappointed I won't get to do those things. But I console myself by being the best babysitter I can be for those families around me. Perhaps I might adopt, but it would be a pretty special circumstance.