The word: Lady

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Nah he's super easy going.
I'm so glad. Possessive men aren't fun.

Neither are possessive women

I've not been in a relationship with a possessive women so I don't know.

Neither have I really, just needy.

I'd rather have neither, and just someone who's driven.

Yeah, like I said, the first few posters on page 1 are.

I used to dislike the word. Not because of "ladylike" but because of the whole "ladies who lunch" image. Then I joined a discussion board called EQWomen -- it started off as a place for women gamers to talk about EverQuest in a mature fashion. We had lots of male posters, too, though it was mostly women. These were women who typically had male friends and male interests -- just like me! It expanded to include many more games, and gaming of all kinds. There were many other topics, too. The thing is, a lot of the women on this board referred to us as "ladies." At first I cringed, but eventually my attitude changed, as none of us were especially "ladylike" or "ladies who lunch" types. The theme of the board was that we were women who loved to game and liked knowing other women who shared their interest...and the use of the term "ladies" seemed to bond us into a community. The board is no longer in existence (LJ killed it, then FB killed LJ), but ever since being one of the Ladies of EQWomen, I no longer mind the term. I have good associations with it now!

[quote="murphycop"]I think its pretty pathetic for a woman to be offended by the word "lady". The kind of people that are, seem to be on a quest to find as many words they can, that offend them. Maybe you should tell a woman from Iran, that you're offended by the word, and they'd probably attack you.[/quote]

Women from America/other place similar in the culture of feminism are different from women in Iran. We grow up in different cultures. They may like being called lady because they might associate it with being classy and sophisticated. However, I tend to associate it with stereotypical rules that I hate following, such as "No burping" and "You should wear make-up". I also tend to associate it with being owned. Same with the word "Broad". Broad is worse, though, because it degrades us to our bodies. "Lady" means we have to behave a certain way to be accepted, which I am not willing to follow.

If I call someone a lady, i'm not thinking that at all.

It doesn't really matter whether you're thinking that when you use it, it'll still be offending to a person who takes it that way.

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I can see why a woman would dislike it too, I associate it with that kind of stuff, myself. If I were a woman, I wouldn't want anything to do with that 'lady etiquette' crap that was forced upon them long ago. That includes words. That may just be me though.

I think there's enough words that people find offensive, in this hideous PC society, without dear or lady added to that list.

The entire idea of "political correctness" in that context isn't even valid. It's mostly a bunch of people getting angry because they can't handle the idea that it's not cool to verbally express their prejudices as natural and thus immune to interrogation.

Ok, just to clarify things, I am not offended by this word, I just dont care for it is basically it. It emphasizes gender steriotypes to me of refinement. I mean the male equivalent is gentlemen, how come I dont hear that word used as much?? Cause guys arent expected to be all refined and crap nearly as much. Sure theres some expectation for them to have the basics of social ettiquete but not nearly as much emphasis. Honestly, Im not that refined with all this social ettiquete crap, Im probably have as much social ettiquete as your average guy or possibly even less.