Scared and disgusted of pregnancy

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LOVED that line, it was very funny )) "Baby GTFO"! LOL! That´s actually kinda sweet as a nick.

I am a paranoid person and was very scared of pregnancy and my fears came true.

My mom dumped me during later stages of pregnancy when i needed care and someone to help me.
My hubby and I didnt have money to get myself admitted into a hospital.

So i decided to stay at my in-laws place
The delivery day was a nightmare i wont go indepth because it was scary
and my mother in law wanted me to have a normal delivery she completely was against
c-section

the whole trauma of being in labour for 12 hours and excruciating pain
and doctor saying that baby wont come out in normal delivery

and finally after fighting literally and getting a c-section done and finding out
that baby is 4.5kg weight which wont have come out in c-section

all that nightmare plus again no support after the c-section delivery
no one to take care, the hunger, cleaning up entire house, cooking
and taking care of child

all that frustration, loneliness ..........

after that i never went for a second child

Wow, that certainly must have been a nightmare. I am not surprised you were discouraged from having another baby. I would be, too, if I had your experiences.

ya people ask me on daily basis why i didnt go for second child
i cant tell them actual reason
i only know what i am going through

True! YOU ONLY can truly know how you feel about it, so don´t let anybody tell you how to feel & what to think.

ya but they keep telling me without me asking them........how can i stop this virus of people offering free advice

I dunno.

I could not read through all of this (causes me stomache-ache I overflew it and read something about pregnance experiences no thank you) but wanted to share my experience.
I trained myself to stand the sight of pregnant females (from a distance, like in the same room is ok, giving me a hug/touchies IS NOT) but I do not want to be near them or talk with them about anything child-related. I find babies a bother and do not know what to do with them, I also have no urge to surround myself with babies but I do not find them disgusting. I'm not curious about babies at all, opposing my general curiosity towards anything. I realized I have to fake interest/ not talk about my issues when I was in school and we had to watch some video about childbirth. Later on, I had to lie to my grandmother ("not now, study comes first" etc.). I'm glad she kind of gave up on me now.

Reproduction is obviously not a topic for me. My partner does not want to reproduce either. I liked to have children (ages 6 and up) because I thought they can give you company when you are old, and you don't have to worry about heirs etc- so mainly practical, egoistic reasons. My plan from my teens on was to adopt children. It sounded like the best thing for me and I wondered (still do) why anyone actually wants to get pregnant when it is so beneficial for everyone to adopt. You can choose who fits you best, you got time to play with each other, get to know each other etc! You even get a free test if you are suited to be a parent or not!! As you can see I am still very convinced that adoption is a very good thing and needs more and better PR.
Just this year I realized I have a low chance of getting older than 60 (family genes and some other medical issues) without trouble, and my "simply adopt plan" changed into "never have kids at all": My chances that I get the benefits of all the year-long trouble raising a child is very very low (my plan to adopt was around 35, until a child is somewhat sane in their mind maybe starts around 20-25), and I do not gain any positive energy from surrounding myself with kids.

Those were my 2 cents. Now outta here, quick >,<;;

I'm quite terrified of it; I'd much rather adopt, if I ever wanted children.

I'm not scared of the pregnancy itself - I think that would be kind of cool - but I'm absolutely terrified of the birth. And that's why I won't have children. I could bear pain, but the entire birth thing just sounds so disgusting and traumatizing.

OMG, yes! I am disgusted even by looking at pregnant women. I am never going to have kids!

Why are all of you so frightened of pregnancy? I am carrying fraternal triplets and I am not afraid at all!

Perhaps I should list the positive factors of pregnancy:

- You could literally consume practically any food item you desire without fretting about weight ( a deep dish pizza with all the toppings available is one of my favorites!)

- Your partner diverts more of his attention towards you ( My romana will not leave me be especially when I am asleep)

- Certain physical aspects become slightly larger

- It becomes less difficult to become aroused and experience orgasm

- The ecstatic sensation derived from natal hormones ( These are quite pleasurable especially during the middle of the day, Pure bliss!)

- Post delivery: Your physical figure changes depending on existing figure, although the hips are supposed to widen a bit. (Personally, I would not mind adding a couple centimeters myself but my Physician tells me that will not happen because of exisiting measurements)

- Post Delivery: Intercourse become intensely more pleasurable after healing from natural childbirth ( Ceasarian section will cause sex to become painful for several months)

- Child Rearing: You could teach your child[ren] useful skills ( I could teach my children Jujutsu and all my knowledge about firearms.)

But after the end of pregnancy, you will end up with extra 30 kilograms and you will never loose them.



That´s certainly one of the few positive things.



Slightly?



That´s possible. I don´t know. I have never been pregnant but believe you.



Again, I dunno. It´s possible IF you are at ease with your pregnancy.



Hmm. My mother begs to differ. She said her hips were really widened forever by her pregnancy and childbirth.



Do not ever TRY to talk so lightly about childbirth in front of me! For most mothers, it´s a very traumatic experience. They usually mentally recover from it only after few years. After the childbirth, most of mothers say the don´t want to bear other children because they were so scared for the first time. Some of them never recover. That´s a well-known fact.



I hope that´s a joke. If it´s true, I am perfectly able to understand why there are so many shootings in the US. I understand the martial arts, many people find it beautiful and useful. But HOW on Earth can say you are going to teach your children about firearms? Any guns are bad!! ! Especially for children! That´s very unreliable.

Agreed.
Adam Lanza's case should be a good example...

I find it really scary but mostly due to the increase in medical procedures that I will have to bear. I dont like strange people touching me - all the needles, and other contraptions scare me to death.

Well, how could I teach them what caliber can drop 500 pound razorback which could feed them for a month and excuse me? My mother was a drill sergeant so I had the best mother of all time, she gave birth to me in the middle of a field with only my father to help and a trench knife to cut the umbilical cord. What has your mother accomplished, hmmm?...

I started learning everything about firearms (as well as military tactics and strategy) when I was nine years of age .

You should be more worried about jujutsu training which involved weapons such as: knives, swords, tessens, nagintas, and rope. My uncle in law taught me what points on the human can irreversibly crippled on the human body and my uncle was a paranoid schizophrenic who enjoyed people in pain (He worked as orthopedic by resetting bones into place), he forced me to wear bodyweights for months on end (although I am strong enough to beat my husband at wrestling and I don't experience back pain as a result from a large bosom ).

Gee, Apparently Im a bad mother already since I want my children to know how to feed themselves and how to cripple someone for life with their bare hands. I am excellent at home economics as well.