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The great thing about forums like this that you can ask the OP what they were thinking.
I usually write for a specific audience, particularly on a forum like this where I have posted for a long time.
One doesn't write 7000 posts in a couple hours. Most of the real life women I know are in long term relationships. I generally don't assume that here.

Taylor Swift is my hero because she has overcome a lot of pressure from people trying to keep women in their place.
Yet again and again she has refused to back down and come out victorious!
Do people need genuine heroes like Taylor Swift. I think it helps me get through the day sometimes.
I know too much about sports to know those heroes aren't real. Like wrestling, is is about entertainment.
Sure, they train a lot and do amazing things. But the pressure isn't real in the big picture of things.

It was just an observation I made on something I saw on tv

Some women have a house to keep a job to keep, kids to feed and clothe and run about hither and to and all kinds of added on stuff like that

That was it really

I never felt pressure to be girly or do woman things either. I relate to the comment about pressure because statisically, women are more likely to be custodial single parents, and even if they stay with the kids' dad they're statistically more likely to be the primary caregiver. Most women work as well as providing for their kids. As we get older we're also more likely according to statistics to be caregivers for our aging parents. Men do a lot of work in their lives too and they have pressures different from ours but it seems like women are expected to multitask more than the traditional role for men who (sterotypically) went to work and paid the bills with few other burdens.

I'm not getting into saying women have it worse but that's how I took the comment about pressure. I didn't think it had anything to do with looks or beauty but I suppose for some women that's yet another consideration.

That's the thing, too -- with domestic and caring. I wasn't pressured for that, either.
Nor am coaxed. In my family, I'm freely asked and I can freely refuse.

Usually in families, usually the elder daughter gets to be the elderly parents' eventual caretakers.

I volunteered before I found out that is one of the many things that's being expected of me.



I understand the stats myself.
More so since my own mom's directly involved in out locale women's domestic affairs and living including populations of single parents.

Sometimes, this culture glorifies the bit around the conception and custody of children; their saying is that 'the mother always wins, because they always have the child'.

I always think this statement weird for reasons I couldn't pinpoint.
Also it implies privilege -- of having the mom's family support... Or that the individual mom has all that resilience and capacity.

Overestimation and depreciation because it's what's expected. But I sense there's more to it.

It just doesn't resonate any more or less since no one told me to have kids, get married, have a boyfriend, abstain, etc.
I only witness these things in front of me, and wouldn't want to live in it.



Which made me just be pickier over certain choices, really, in anything related to the dynamics of relationships and the works.

To avoid pitfalls and said pressures.



I can see the pressures of men, too, and how different it is.

And I imagined it to be more alien.
Because that's how I see it, almost literally sometimes, due to my upbringing.



In the end...

It validates my view of humanity and NTs even more.

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My brother tried to pressure me into taking care of Mom, even though I moved across the country and he never moved out of the house! He even wanted to continue with the decision making! But not do the hard work!

I only have one sibling, an older brother. It's not because I'm a woman and he's a man, but I have more bedside manner and practical experience like changing diapers or bathing other people because I've had babies. Also my mother doesn't want a man including her grandsons to deal with her nudity (showers, dressing, toileting, doing up bras, etc.) I could say no but the alternative is to pay someone out of my eventual inheritance.

Even when my dad was dying I had more of those soft skills than my brother, because of parenting babies. For example I had to help nurses manually extract poop from his butt when he was severely constipated.

My brother has an adopted son and was a single dad for many years, but he missed the baby stage entirely, and I did all the rest of raising that boy.

But isn't that big issue with autism? If a girl hits on an autistic guy and he doesn't notice, isn't that considered normal for autism? Does that mean the girl didn't actually hit on him?

Yeah. ^

Some people think our biggest concern is our looks, our clothes, or trying to impress men.