Dealing with other women

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I can't understand why women are so obsessed with how other women look in general. Particularly when they want to give you 'style' suggestions or a 'makeover'. If they think you look awful, shouldn't they logically be pleased, if anything? Because it's less competition for them?

Substitute the word dresses for men and OMG!!

Most girls I've met are nice but whenever there's a guy around, they become werewolves and show their teeth! I remember even having one girl go as far as calling me names like skank and whore after one guys was just chatting with me. I had no idea he was even with her or that he was ever being flirtatious and that's not been the first time.

It also seems that guys are a little more supportive of their buddies if one of them is single or going out with a female while females destroy eachother over some guys that doesn't even seem worthy of so much attention ....that's been my experience anyway. There are some girls I've met that are not so much like this but I've often wondered if there wasn't social conformity as well as instinctive factors involved. I could never identify with this intensity most girls get with the opposite sex. Hell....it was hard enough just to try and fit in and look acceptable with all the teasing and ridicule.

I really hated highschool.

I had a female friend, who thought she was the end all be all sex godess, tell me that I was lucky I was her friend because she could take my b/f from me at any moment she so chose too. Needless to say, not long after she said that too me, I told my b/f, who explained it to me that she was being mean and that it wasn't true, he thought she was ugly because she had an ugly personality. We weren't friends for long after that, I did my usual impartial parting of the ways.

BTW, the b/f became the husband. He keeps me sane and doesn't care that I'm wierd

I also had a friend like that.

She was always after other girls' guys. I didn't date so it wasn't something for me to really worry about.

Last guy she was with was married and I knew the poor girl. What makes this so ironic is the guy she "stole" was cheating on her with another woman!! It was very hard for me to care or even sympathize with her since he had been doing the same thing she was doing. And we're no longer friends...in fact if anything I felt more used like a pillow than a friend.

Just goes to show you, don't sleep where wolves lie....or something like that.....

I seem to have trouble being with other women. (And I've got my own issues with men too, so it doesn't leave me many social options! )
When I was younger, I got a lot of bitchy putdowns for not doing much with my appearance and not being girly etc. Then when I shaped up and wore lipgloss etc, I got a lot of jealousy directed at me from one 'friend'. I find it's so easy for other women to manipulate me. Teenage girls are the worst! Some of them would call me a slut. (One when I was 13yo)
Also I hate when women will start getting so personal, I prefer to hang out and play pool rather than discuss if I have a boyfriend. Then why I don't have a boyfriend... Yes it happened

I could be wrong, but men seem to generally be a bit more relaxed with one another because it's generally less emotional topics. Maybe? Unless there's actually an issue between them of course. And I would LOVE to be able to be as direct as guys and not get told that girls shouldn't be so direct. It's also happened.

I have no female friends. I just found almost every NT female I ever came across to be very shallow, supercifial, and two-faced. Friend one day, stranger the next. They spoke in roundabout ways and then expected me to know exactly what they were talking about!
If I spoke too directly, they would get all confused and then ask me to say what I mean (which I later discovered meant to speak in the same roundabout way that they did.) Little did they know, I always said what I meant and meant what I said.

I offended some girls just by getting better grades than them. Apparently, getting a 100% on a biology test where everyone else in the class failed, was being a show-off. (By the way, I never bragged or gloated. I took my graded test paper and quietly put it in my binder, and proceeded to read my book.)

Two weeks ago I went away with some friends for a weekend. We usually go twice a year but I cancelled on the last one because I couldn't take the crowd. So I hadn't seen them in a year. Holy crap, I forgot how loud 15 women are!! I kept having to leave the room. So many conversations all going on at the same time. It was insane. My anxiety was through the roof. That being said, the majority of them were really great about it and very supportive. It helps that I've known most of them for 7+years. At the end of the weekend one of my friends said she's going to make me a shirt that says "I'm an Aspie with a social phobia and I survived a weekend with 15 women." I thought that was hilarious.

But when I came home, it took me 2 whole days to even begin to recover. I was so happy to be home with my things and my usual routines.

Basically, though I am a woman, I hate most women and try to avoid all contact with them. If I do have to deal with women, I keep the conservation short and to the point and the nasty women I ignore completely.

AHAHA I HATE WOMEN.
My friends in school were always tomboys or nerds or artsy weirdos or sort of masculine in other behavior, as was I, even though most of them were straight and otherwise girly. I think it was more pronounced since we went to an all girls school and there wasn't as much pressure to be feminine since there were no boys.

OMG I hate most other women. Maybe more the hobags, I really hate those kind of women. I had to deal with a group of them on Saturday at a Bachalorette party, that needless to say went bad. Half way thru a VERY expensive night, of which we could have done without seriously, I flipped out when while talking to my husband about sending me a car to come get me because I couldn't deal with it all anymore, the Maid of Honor flipped out because the groom hates her and knew she was gonna get in big trouble and the Bride, my best buddy, the only female friend I have IRL, got worried her groom was gonna flip on her, and so they took the cell phone from me, told my husband I was OK but that I ran off, and hung up on him. I found myself freaking out in the bathroom stall trying to pull myself together. All I could think of while all this was going down was "ARE YOU FREAKING KIDDING ME..THIS IS ALL OVER A MALE STRIP CLUB!! REALLY??! !! GET ME OUT OF HERE!" The Maid of honor...has no honor, no class and acts like a common whore, and I still have to deal with her at the wedding. I need strength not to hit her at least once, altho I know the grooms family will cheer me if I do..


(thanks for letting me vent that all out)

I went to a batchelorette party that was incredibly stuffy and tame and somewhat depressing, and I started having a panic attack and had to go home...and these were artsy down-to-earth-type women.

same here. exactly. even the all-girls school.