Do you feel like a man?

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When I was little I very much felt like a boy. When I was a teenager, I went through a brief phase where I thought I was bisexual and I was oddly attracted to girls who were either hyper-feminine or more masculine than myself. I am no longer attracted to other females..or really it has been a long time since that has happened..and i tend to feel more estranged from females in general.... but being around uber-feminine types makes me feel like i am of some different gender...neither male nor-female...and my personality clashes with that of really masculine women...and they can often sorta scare me.
I have a thing for feminine males...or men who are gender neutral or at least somewhat in touch with their femininity..really I am mainly referring to my 2 partners...one is a gentle silly sort of man with a softish voice...not macho at all....the other is bi-gendered...or gender-queer--or whatever you call it.

i feel male in my head, but other people, mostly women, make me feel genderless.

Not really. Only sometimes I feel a little like I might as well be, when I try to socialise with NT women!

I feel like a hu-man...not particularly masculine or feminine.

I sure as hell do! I have a male or pangendered personality, a male alter ego and by intuition know what it feels like to be a man. I don't see why people segregate males and females so much. Actually i don't really care either way what my gender is to tell you the truth. I know physically i'm female, but thats it.


I never got why people find 'hunks' attractive! I am strongly sexually attracted to big men, usually older than me, but at the same time i find women attractive in a non sexual way. Acutally come to think of it, i find a lot of people asthetically beautiful regardless of their gender....

Just stay sane and be yourself in the process...

It's natural to be sexual.

Um...actually I don't really feel like a man. I love my breasts, my curves, and all the other stuff that comes with it.. well except for periods and pms but ANYWAYS. Yeah, I love men but I don't want to be one.

I thought everyone has breasts...

This.

Or I guess I could be a little of both...

Well, I'm a me. I'm not sure what boxes that ticks....I get along with my friends long term boyfriends as well as I do my friends, in an honorary geeky guy way (gangster films and movie trivia, obscure metal/punk bands, comedians like Bill Hicks etc). I also like clothes, make up and can aesthetically appreciate a handsome man.


I was somewhat affronted when reading a book about US hardcore (punk! pur-lease) that apparently women weren't into it, or the few that were were either macho lesbians or skanky tarts in fishnets.

I was neither.

But I did skate, and therefore dressed pretty much like a boy- for practicalities sake. But with nailpolish and some makeup. And I wasn't scared of a mosh pit either. I wear more feminine clothes now my extreme sports days seem to be behind me. Still don't know where that puts me on the gender scale, I get told I'm very feminine and therefore the above was more "cute" than anything else.

Is the male equivalent of this subject not common in guys who are ASD, or have I just not found the threads yet? On my favorite INFP forum, a thread by and about males who experience the inverse of this is one of the longest threads on the forum.

I feel both feminine and masculine I think. I like my life to be practical and my clothes to be comfortable. I don't wear makeup or jewelry.

I find it a problem, that I like to have my hair cut short, but I also would like to some degree to be found attractive by men So I start letting my hair grow, but after a while I cant stand it, and then cut it again.

But other times I don't like getting looks from men at all, I hate it. The problem about having a certain look just to feel attractive, is that I feel someone may like me for the wrong reasons. Like in a relationship, I would feel like the person didn't really like the real me.

I feel more comfortable interacting with men in general, but my tendency to fall in love makes it hard to have male friends. My natural way of being around men is also kind of flirtatious, I don't know why.

I can relate to many of the things written in this thread.

This concerns me too. However, I realised that no matter what I look like, if a man is physically attracted to me, I cannot be sure he is seeing the real me. All I know is that he probably is not, because the real me does not have a female gender identity.

How on earth would I know that?

i actually read every entry of this topic. now i feel a little bit confused. confused about my feelings in term of male or female. i am a woman but on the sexual side i feel like a man. that means - if i could, i would have sex as a man with a woman.

but, in the normal live i like to be a woman as i am.

i feel nothing if i have sex with a man. but, i couldn't imaging to be a lesbian. having sex with another woman would be an absolute no go.

so me.


i look attractive and have a erotic charisma, that's what men said. so they always want a relationship not a friendship. that's difficult for me, because i am not interesting in having a relationship or something like this.

i feel more asexual so living in a partnership is not my goal.

I used to feel a lot like a man. When I was young, I used to wonder if I ought to have been born a boy. I loved girl's toys and I also distinctly remember loving He-Man toys.


As I got older (teens) I especially felt like a man because I was fairly well built and a bit of an ugly duckling around prettier or more petite girls. I'm 5'8 now and wasn't too far off that as a teenager.

Today, I would be described as feminine. When I have told people about feeling like a man they have laughed. it probably would sound ridiculous I guess, to look at me.

I was always smarter than most other kids and the only ones who could compete were usually boys.

I still have the 'male' part of my brain and I really like it. In the past few years, having tried to fit in 'like a normal person', I was really forced to hide my intelligence and, sometimes, my assertion, in order to get by.

It was silly, and now that I have some idea and support of a different way to view things and do things, I am much calmer and able to use the 'male' part of my brain more.