Are you a tom-boy?

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maybe some what. I do like girly things but not to the extreme. I mostly wear sweatpants. Jeans recently have started to bother me. I need like soft materials against my skin I guess. I don't really LIKE to get dressed up but I do when I have to. My favorite color is purple and I love girly cartoons and anime. I guess I am girly, sort of. I don't really do anything with my hair. I just wash it and let it go natural. I don't wear a lot of make up. I guess I am pretty neutral.

Yes, I would definitely 100% describe me as being a 'tom-boy'...and I have been throughout my entire childhood; I sport since I was 5- Basketball aged 5, Judo age 5 until aged 7, Football (soccer) from age 6 up until aged 14, Tag Rugby age 8, Skateboarding until the present.

...plus, I used to play with Action Man dolls, while all the other girls would play with barbie dolls...
...during free time in primary school, I would build things with Lego bricks and Kinex etc.
...all but two of my close primary friends were boys; one of my girlie friends was also a tom-boy.

I also (still do) play video games all the time; Grand Theft Auto, Fifa, Pro Evolution Soccer, Fight Night and the EA Skate games seem to be my favorite...PLUS, LA Noire.

On the outside I'm very girly. I dress girly, I act girly (my gait, posture, etc.). But I hate talking about "girly" stuff such as clothes, boys, Twilight ... and in many ways I am pretty much like a guy on the inside.

I am very much a tomboy and always have been. Form follows function for me. I wear jeans, hiking boots, and tshirts most of the time. Occasionally I'll put on a shirt that buttons and has a collar. It is very uncomfortable for me to wear feminine clothes. But at the same time, I have a very nurturing personality, almost motherly, but I do not have or want kids. Wearing makeup for me would feel as ridiculous as wearing clown paint in public. Really, there's not much difference to me. If a man painted his face and went out in public he wouldn't expect to be taken seriously, but for women it's ok...defies logic to me, but then people aren't logical. Some women look great in makeup and I wouldn't tell a woman not to wear it if she wanted, I just can't.

This post reminds me of this song. I have to say, I think if you have a brain and you are a young girl, you can see boys have all the advantages....Do you see any posts for men about when I was a Tom girl? Just saying....you can be female, a woman, very feminine and still grow up a 'tom boy' or being an adult female who doesn't buy into pop culture's definition of what is to be female:

Lyrics from When I was Boy by Dar Williams

I won't forget when Peter Pan came to my house, took my hand
I said I was a boy; I'm glad he didn't check.
I learned to fly, I learned to fight
I lived a whole life in one night
We saved each other's lives out on the pirate's deck.

And I remember that night
When I'm leaving a late night with some friends
And I hear somebody tell me it's not safe,
someone should help me
I need to find a nice man to walk me home.

When I was a boy, I scared the pants off of my mom,
Climbed what I could climb upon
And I don't know how I survived,
I guess I knew the tricks that all boys knew.

And you can walk me home, but I was a boy, too.

I was a kid that you would like, just a small boy on her bike
Riding topless, yeah, I never cared who saw.
My neighbor come outside to say, "Get your shirt,"
I said "No way, it's the last time I'm not breaking any law."

And now I'm in this clothing store, and the signs say less is more
More that's tight means more to see, more for them, not more for me
That can't help me climb a tree in ten seconds flat

When I was a boy, See that picture? That was me
Grass-stained shirt and dusty knees
And I know things have gotta change,
They got pills to sell, they've got implants to put in,
they've got implants to remove

But I am not forgetting...that I was a boy too

And like the woods where I would creep, it's a secret I can keep
Except when I'm tired, 'cept when I'm being caught off guard
And I've had a lonesome awful day, the conversation finds its way
To catching fire-flies out in the backyard.

And so I tell the man I'm with about the other life I lived
And I say, "Now you're top gun, I have lost and you have won"
And he says, "Oh no, no, can't you see

When I was a girl, my mom and I we always talked
And I picked flowers everywhere that I walked.
And I could always cry, now even when I'm alone I seldom do
And I have lost some kindness
But I was a girl too.
And you were just like me, and I was just like you"

I'am and always have been a tomboy, and because of that when I sat down and told my mum I think I have AS, the first thing she said to me (before I told her) was, "Are you a lesbian?"- She attributed me being 'butch' to my sexuality, instead of my personality...LOL Anyway...I just laughed at her and told her, "NO", in the middle of me having a crying meldown.

Manly strut? Check. Deep voice? Check. Manly face and body shape? ...I'll skip this one.

Yeah I am. Doesn't mean I can't love Hello kitty though!! !

Tom boy for sure. If I see a tree I need to climb it. I want a Makita drill set. I do martial arts so I am very muscular and lean and a bit androgynous looking - and I love tank tops. Don't care for make up, prefer being in the bush, no female interest really - but I did do something very funny a few weeks back. I bought some lingerie. I thought I looked positively stupid. My very good friend for the purposes or intelligent conversation and sex, and he has a dog I am very fond of, so when I visit him, I play with the dog most of the time - thought it looked fantastic. Now it hangs in the cupboard and I am back to boxer shorts again. He wants me to wear it again. It is really uncomfortable. @ INTHE DEEPEND INTERESTING. I have no maternal instincts what so ever. It has taken me 10 years to finally have a tubal ligation. I am 34. Nobody wanted to do it. It was only after my Epilepsy diagnosis that they finally took me seriously.

I'm half and half with this and most things. Girly enough to not be called a tom boy -- but with tom boy traits, so I don't fit in with females. I get along with females better casually if they are aspie with male/tomboy traits, but some of the aspie traits could be hard if we got to be real friends.

Considering the fact that AS is a largely male dominated disorder I don't find it surprising that most of us are tomboys.

Am what you considered a a lipstick tomboy. Someone who likes things which are consered to be Tom boyish but wears things considered to be girlie and make up.

i relate to Tank Girl

As in, I love the military, weaponry...

but i AM feminine (to a point)...

i love hello kitty and bright colors, but thats due to my childlike nature, i s'pose.

I also have tattoo of a cupcake with a diamond on top, and yet im the type of chick who's very intelligent, and articulate (& wont hesitate to back myself up if physically threatened)

i relate to Tank Girl

As in, I love the military, weaponry...

but i AM feminine (to a point)...

i love hello kitty and bright colors, but thats due to my childlike nature, i s'pose.

I also have tattoo of a cupcake with a diamond on top, and yet im the type of chick who's very intelligent, and articulate (& wont hesitate to back myself up if physically threatened)


... matter of fact, I've only fought males (and won.)


lol

Sort of... I like video games but not ones with lots of blood and gore. I wear jeans and t-shirts nearly all the time but when I was little I once wanted to only wear dresses. I had female friends as a kid but when I got older I was better friends with boys, mainly cousins that I grew up with. I'm not a sports fan nor am I very active. I hardly ever wear makeup, I have never liked the way it feels on my face and find it a pain to put on every day. I like lots of cute, pink "girly" things like dolls and stuffed animals but as a child I would also play with my male cousin's action figures. My mother told me it was okay even though I was a girl. I think it would be fun and cool to dress up like a female boxer for Halloween but I've also dressed up as a fairy and a nurse. So I guess I'm a "tom-girl"?

In my early twenties I was a tom boy. Sweats and t-shirts staying up late playing video games with my then boyfriend, but for some reason around the age of 25 I began to enjoy girl things. I enjoy being sexy if only for ten minutes in my home.