24 Jun 2024, 5:47 am
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24 Jun 2024, 8:13 am
Lost_dragon wrote:
IsabellaLinton wrote:
No one told me to date, get married, have kids, etc. either.
I find that expectations really vary. When someone asks if I have a boyfriend and I say no, I often get the response 'Oh that's sensible of you, focusing on your professional life instead of men'. I don't always feel like coming out as gay so I sometimes just say no when I'm asked about a boyfriend and I let people assume whatever they want to assume.
Strangers tend to assume that I'm in a relationship. If I'm walking about with a male friend, the usual comments are 'Oh how cute, how long have you been together?' or 'Ha, men, am I right?'
If I'm making small talk with a woman, the response is 'Do you have a crush on her?' or 'Why were you speaking for so long? Were you two flirting?' Or I get amused side smiles which I've never fully understood.
I remember I was alone at a café once drinking a coffee when I overheard a woman talking to a man about how it was sad that I was sat alone. Personally, I disagree, I think that's a fairly normal thing to do. However, it was somewhat entertaining to hear her speculate about my life. I think she believed that she was out of earshot and I pretended not to hear her so she wasn't embarrassed.
My friends are always encouraging me to go back to online dating. There's a fair amount of teasing about my lack of dating experience. Personally, I've decided to just focus on getting a new job for now. I may go back to attempting dating once I've sorted that out.
It's somewhat interesting that it's gone from 'Oh! You're an independent woman who'll find a guy when she's ready. Good for you' to 'Why aren't you putting yourself out there? You can't just play video games with your mates forever. You need to speak to women. Go join a hobby group. Show off your new haircut. Go outside. Go to bars. Kiss someone'.
I’m really sorry you have such commentary on your life. My daughter gets the same advice from people despite having a girlfriend they haven’t met.
The comments about you sitting alone made me cringe. What’s wrong with people that they can’t handle being alone and they have to judge others for it, especially within earshot?
24 Jun 2024, 9:13 am
BTDT wrote:
I enjoy shopping for clothes! Women have such a wonderful choice of styles and colors!
There is literally nothing for an XXS sized guy to buy.
But, " the world is her oyster" for an XS sized girl with an hourglass figure that wears size 7 shoes.
There is literally nothing for an XXS sized guy to buy.
But, " the world is her oyster" for an XS sized girl with an hourglass figure that wears size 7 shoes.
If I were that kind of girl, yeah.
Sometimes I look at other women and their... Pile of clothes and shoes...
Several sets of make up, perfume, etc. And how much they talk about those things. And every social occasion they go through.
Seriously. I cannot relate.
I get navigating via trial and error, and mix and matching styles, and easily getting sick of stuff and changing minds.
Or even the 'just in case' yet won't happen, or the entirety of 'fancying' (buying it because of the idea of it or that it looks pretty, not it's practical use but it's "promise").
But not getting satisfied is and just upping on the wowing a crowd is... Eh.
I could just go anywhere with a certain outfit match. I prefer something subtle than outwardly new.
And I don't have a particular status to uphold. So I can just dress more plainly and it's still 'appropriate'. I don't like overdressing.
Also it's a household headache to have too many clothes.
I grew up resolving that I won't be like my mom and her pile of stuff.
I also seen plenty of women who wanted minimalism but cannot help but get clothes too many for varying reasons.
Nah. It's not just body size.
More like your genes and the money you're able to spend.
Genes makes it less costly/easier. Money would make up for it.
Genes means you have XS body and size 7 shoes. Or at least being able to go somewhere retail without worry something may not fit.
And that common beauty products works for you, your hormones are well balanced to not need to work around it's consequences like breakouts, fluctuating body size and diet, and overall being a functioning person, your skin is not so delicate and high maintenance, your make up is easy to find, and everything just looks good on you, you're easier to clean and still smell good, etc.
Easier lifestyles with less consequences (onto self and others) and more choices and options.
Money means you can get plastic surgery or able to get custom of anything that cannot be commonly sold like XXS size stuff.
Money means you can afford to have hormonal fluctuations and sensitivities, all that professional medical help related to everything; skin, hair, body size, executive function, etc.
Money means you can fill up your wardrobe, keep up with the trend and have it long lasting without worry.
I say being "the world is her oyster" if you're rich.
So are lucky on genes.And this is coming from someone who never worried about fitting clothes. Shoes are a hassle to me -- I'm big footed and wide.
My hormones are a bigger pain than my low maintenance figure.
Could care less about breakouts and unable to find what worked -- I just want to stop suddenly being impulsive and lazy for a week and interrupt productivity momentum and disrupt what I'm going for at life, because the internal sensitivities declared that I got too much progesterone and not enough estrogen.
24 Jun 2024, 10:11 am
25 Jun 2024, 1:46 pm
25 Jun 2024, 8:20 pm
Uh Oh .. its too late for ...me....Clotheshound ...tried to reform..but , it happened all over again ... 
Got my own taste in style and easily builds a outfit out of thrift store cast offs ..And some custom duds , here and there
And It seems impossible to turn back time .. Standing on over 60 yr old feet ..yup they get alittle wider.
So shoes that saved , because of style for so many years , Just dont , let me be on squeezed feets, so long anymore.
And slippers do not help my poor proprioception..Banging toes inadvertantly into everything below my feild of vision.
Time to purge my closets again . 
26 Jun 2024, 2:13 pm
27 Jun 2024, 1:44 am
I broke every high heels I've ever worn (all borrowed or newly brought for a specific occasion) it will not last a day with me and would never own one.
27 Jun 2024, 3:53 am
27 Jun 2024, 10:03 am
I shop for cute stuff at Revolve online. Mostly cheap stuff but once in a while I'll see something really nice like a silk blouse and buy it. Or a $50 sleeveless T shirt with great color. 
27 Jun 2024, 11:58 pm
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09 Jul 2024, 5:41 am
babybird wrote:
Can you use duck tape for DIY breast lift
Well, it requires some sort of padding on top of the tape to be comfortable and safe.
... That is, if you're literally using actually duck tape.
It'll hurt the skin off if one tries to take it off, may need some oil to ease it off.
Also, not recommended. Sticky and plastic just doesn't feel good.
Otherwise I've yet to try tapes specifically designed for nonsurgical breast lift, other than some adhesive nipple covers and adhesive cups...
Never tried actually boob tapes.
.. WHY the frick did I know that, and actually ever did used duck tape for a breast lift, once upon a time???
Not because am bored -- but because am outright frustrated.
One of the many options I tried (along with scarves, sports bras, padded camisoles, padded crop tops, padded shirts, sando-bras, adhesive cups, adhesive nipple cover...) because I don't like the sensation of touching my entire under the busts like most bras do.
And I just want to know what 'breast support' actually felt like. Also no, I didn't get that feeling from trying duct tape.
Also no, I never did until I gained a bra size from taking BCPs.
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