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06 Jul 2009, 11:52 am

Amen to the block button. I had some creep chase me around in the world of warcraft a few years ago. Same basic story talked to me for a few days acted like he was my friend then started with the creepy crap asking about my built and was realy into the fact I had kids and wanted a picture of my strech marks ewwwwww. I have no idea what made him think that was ok to ask after talking about things like what kind of movies we liked ect.

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06 Jul 2009, 12:13 pm

CRD wrote:

And I thought I had a good idea of what creepy was... That's just sick and disturbing.

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07 Jul 2009, 1:34 pm

CRD wrote:

Welcome to the Internets..........

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20 Aug 2009, 5:27 pm

0_equals_true wrote:

As for women who women who tend to touch your arm,back, and shoulders and call you "hon"-that kind of behaviour is sending mixed messages and can VERY easily be interpreted the wrong way by some fellows.
I think its unwise for such women to do it with men they dont know or who's body language they cant read easily.

...unless they are *hoping* to get it on with that behavior. To tell you the truth, in such instances I'd touch her in return and try to get something going, though if she said "no" or pushed me away I'd respect her decision.

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21 Aug 2009, 7:15 am

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I've had lots of creepy situations in my life...I seems to also be a magnet & have been since I was a child. The weird thing is I have never been an attractive girl. I have buck teeth, big ears, too much wild hair, & am clueless about socializing. So I have always wondered why anyone would want to do things to me. I always heard you need to beware of strangers, but they are not the only creeps out there. Most of these instances occured while I was minding my own business.

Ugh. tomboy, I don't consider myself a 'looker', and I'm also socially inept, and I can only conclude that for me, at least, it was the combination of me maturing quite early physically (I had a more or less adult figure by age 14), and being extremely naive about relationship and sex matters. I think that gives off vibes that a certain kind of guy can spot a mile off.

Most of the bad incidents, for me, were in my teens. Some lowlights of that time...

Age 14: I had older guys try and chat me up at some of the social functions my parents took me too - everyone there was usually much older than me. I had a 40-odd year old married truck driver grope me and try to snog me, and my folks (who were present in the same room) blame me for not telling him where to go.

Age 15: I had one of the kids' entertainers at a holiday camp kiss me on the lips and try to grope me after (being the oldest kid around) I helped him out with a magic show.

Age 18: One of my male cousins, whom I'd always been close friends with as a kid, came onto me, then, when he got fed up of trying to get me into bed, went round telling all my older relatives how I'd tried to seduce him. (You know the really hurtful thing? Most of them believed him.)

Then from age 18-19 I was a member of a dating agency, aka Creep Central. Turns out that checking the box for 'Meaningful relationship' quite often incorporates the clause 'Not meaningful enough for keeps, but will cop a feel anyway because, after all, I bought you dinner and drinks, right?' Some women might be equipped to tell the difference on sight...some can't.

There have been others, but basically after my first marriage (age 21, and he wasn't the most considerate of specimens either) I started to get wise to this kind of crap...and oddly, I don't seem to have been bothered since. I'd like to think I give off an air of greater confidence these days, but I think really it's maybe that I just look older.

I would say to the parents of Aspie girls, please, please equip your daughter for the real world. Mine just sort of hoped I wouldn't interact with it if they didn't tell me how. Things don't work that way.

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27 Aug 2009, 8:19 pm

I was in a bar, and this dead ringer for Charles Manson walks up to me and by way of flirting starts flicking his cigarette lighter on and off in my face. Until pretty recently, if there was a psycho within a five mile radius, he would find me.

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02 Sep 2009, 6:09 am

I did when I was younger, not so much now. Not so cute anymore........... :lol: Now they seem to find me creepy. :twisted:

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03 Sep 2009, 9:50 pm

patternist wrote:

Usually they are men of a certain age/generation...baby boomers maybe? Balding and typically about 50 pounds overweight and desperate looking and probably bored sick of their lives? That defines creepy. I try to be nice, but sometimes there seems to be absolutely no other reason for them to talk to me besides a lecherous one.

Sadly, these creeps and the Viagra/retiree/rest home set are the only guys who approach or talk to me... :cry:

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04 Sep 2009, 5:57 am

I get the same thing. Most of the time its not sexual but there has been a few moments.
I've noticed that with NT's they can give off a vibe that says leave me alone, but all I can do if someone speaks to me is smile pleasently and be as polite as I can. Creepy guys and a few creepy women seem to think this means that I want to speak to them, but really I just don't know how to finish a conversation that I don't want to be having. I know I'm just too polite for my own good.

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07 Sep 2009, 12:05 am

Oddly enough, the ones approaching me aren't in a specific age range. If I were social I might have actually indulged a few of the guys my age. But dating situations are too confusing so I end up ignoring them or telling them I'm not interested. They usually leave me alone afterwards.

I wouldn't call them creepy, though...

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07 Sep 2009, 6:02 pm

Ragtime wrote:

Postperson wrote:

For young women who don't want this sort of attention, the only solution I know of is to 'frump it up', wear baggy, daggy unfeminine clothing, possibly glasses and tie your hair back. It's a hard thing for women to get their head around as the whole culture tells you to look attractive at all times.

As long as you're young you generally do attract attention, when you get a bit wrinklier, say over 40, this sort of thing tends to die off a bit.

I don't know of any other way and I used to be a 'traffic stopper' in my youth.

Try carrying a fake baby wrapped in a blanket. That might work, considered gwenevyn wrote that having her young child with her in public made her invisible to men, whereas she received much flirting while alone. Any suggestion of parenthood, I am told, will scare most men off.

ViatorRose wrote:

When I am out with my father I am mostly unnoticed. But, when out alone I am subject to the most inappropriate suggestions and unwelcome attention.

Interesting... Looks like seeing women with their families scares men off.

Parenthood scares men off becase a) they do not want to be roped into becoming responsible for another man's child, b) they may not like children and even if they do, they do not want to be seen as an interloper. Children can react very negatively to a woman's new boyfriend, c) The kids always come first, not him.

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25 Sep 2009, 1:14 pm

patternist wrote:

I have actually been propositioned before when I was married. I explained I was married and he talked about "honor among thieves".

disturbing...

i got propositioned once, too, but that was, I guess, because my skirt was too short for the season. probably confused people.

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