What's up with AS girls marrying so early...?

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The same reason anyone else would: truly loving the person. The guy I am with now and hoping to marry is four years older than me, so in my case an age difference may contribute - for example, if we marry when he is twenty-six and "old enough" by your standards, I will be twenty-two, but still finished with my schooling.

I'm not married yet but I'm engaged. I will not be changing my name, I will not be having children and I will not be giving up my career. I am getting married because I finally found someone who understands me and cares for me, who I understand and care for also.

I got engaged to my first husband at 15 and we got married as soon as I turned 18. We really, truly loved each other and were loyal to each other in the extreme. Since we knew we wanted to get married, we wanted to go ahead with the wedding before college so we didn't have to do both at once. We were Christians, and marriage was important to us. And, where we live, it's kind of culturally expected to get married young. In the end, his financial indiscretions made it impossible for me to trust him or feel secure at all and we had to say goodbye, but we were married for 9 years. I don't think any of the above has to do with Asperger's at all.

I mess up my romantic relationships, through being too naive, too romantic, too hopeful, too trusting, too loyal.
But I don't want to stop being romantic, hopeful, trusting and loyal.

why can't I find a woman who accept everything about me.... oh well, I guess being a ''wimp'' is just too much for every women out there, beside my ex-gf.
but on the bright side, I am saving alot of money and I have my own time to do stuff, and since I am too ''wimpy'' for most women anyways, I am free to talk to other women, without having any wife nagging at me.
Maybe Im bless for being seen as ''wimp''


( I am not a wimp, women just think I am

Why are you painting women with the same brush? I see you do it in these forums over and over and over and it irks me. Why would a wife be "naggy?" The two don't have to go together you know.

billiscool, stop posting in the Women's forum unless you are following the guidelines specifically stated at the top of the forum. you have been warned for this before. specifically, keep this in mind:


http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt141113.html

So I havent read through the 9 pgs of this thread but theres no way I'm getting married early although Im at the age where if I got married now, it wouldnt really be considered that young, Im 24. I think I'll marry later most likely, probably like 35 maybe? Who knows? Im not even close to be ready to settle down.

I married when I was 22. He liked my quirks (and then neither of us didn't know anything about Aspergers and just figured I was just socially awkward and eccentric). Now the sad irony is, before I met my future husband I was determined to not be the sort of idiot girl who marries someone out of romantic delusion, but we only dated for a year and a half before we married. Love makes you dumb, let me warn y'all. But at the time I didn't see a reason to wait when we seemed like such a good match. I don't obsess over 'what ifs' much.

In many ways I regret it, but there's nothing I can do about it now. Even though he's NT we both have enough issues that it's been more unhappy and codependent than anything else. But I can't say waiting would've made me any better at being in a marriage relationship, honestly.

I know a lot of girls who marry early.