Do you have the ability to fall in love?

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I don't fall in love much. Specially not crushes, but I think that's because I am kind of asexual and crushes mean feeling attracted, don't they?
Most of the time I am not interested in anyone but I did fall in love a couple of times, always someone that is a friend, not a platonic love.
To be honest I still miss this boy I was in love with for 2 years when I was younger. I wish we would meet again! He made me feel...

One of the things I don't like in english is the use of the word "love". It has too many meanings.
For instance, we use 'falling in love' and 'loving someone', but those are actually very different feelings! !!
in my language it is more or less like this:
a fim - when you feel attracted and want contact like kissing
interessado - when you want to date the person or know better but usually because of attraction
platonic - when you don't know the person/ don't know them well and idealize
gostar - when you feel "butterflies" and such but usually an innocent love or with friendship
apaixonar - when you feel "butterflies" and the attraction and some idealization
obssessão - when you are obssessed

Amor, which is "love", is only used when it is really really love!

=> I have fallen in love few times (rarely but happens), however I have never loved! In my case it is always gostar, don't feel the others and haven't yet felt love

Yes, I am in love with my boyfriend. Like someone else posted, the butterfly type feeling that was there at the start, has pretty much gone now... and now there are deeper feelings (although, do sometimes get the butterfly feeling).

I thought I was in love with my previous boyfriends, but now realise that I wasn't, I had just liked the idea.

My boyfriend who is NT, actually thinks that people with AS have much deeper feelings of love than people who don't, but don't know how true that is and obviously you can't generalise. He thinks that were I NT I would never look at him twice (which I don't think is true, but obviously will never know.... I mean I would be a completely different person)

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I don't.

I don't.

Yeah, but my ability to be sexually attracted to someone is much more dominant. It takes a while for love to kick in.

I have no idea because I haven't felt more than a slight attraction to anyone since middle school. At the time, I had crushes on two guys. I "loved" one out of pure physical attraction (I now blame this on pubescent hormones). The other guy was the most intelligent kid in the class, and intelligent people earn huge points in my book. The first guy ended up rejecting me and I was never brave enough to approach baby einstein. After that, the crushes disappeared.

I think part of this comes from fear. A key part of relationships is communication, which I'm horrible at. I have trouble expressing my feelings to other people, and I'm never sure exactly how others feel unless said out loud. Because of this, I never thought about a guy long enough fall in love with them. Realizing the amount of social skills relationships require has kind of opted me out of the dating scene. I know that's a lazy attitude, but with all of my other problems at the moment, it's been put on the back burner.

I am pretty sure what i feel for my husband is love. This is the first time I have ever felt this feeling so it is still new to me even after almost six years.