do you ever feel asexual?

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I find that my sex drive fluctuates, but I'm not sexually attracted to people. Full stop. I can look at a man, and appreciate that he is attractive, or has a good body, and I can look at a woman and think that she is attractive, but I never look at one or the other and think that I want to sleep with them.

I have 'physical' or visual attractions to people -- both men and women, but I don't have sexual attractions towards them. After a discussion I had a while back in this forum, people told me that my dislike of genitalia is grounds for needing therapy. A few days later, two of my classmates also told me that I need therapy. I feel that that is very ignorant. Does one tell gay people that they need therapy because they do not desire the genitalia of someone of the opposite sex? No. So why should I need therapy because I desire neither gender's genitalia? Like I said before, my attraction to people is purely physical, if not spiritual, but is never sexual. I want companionship, but sex? No thank you.

I am attracted to people - women, really - but my sexual attraction has fluctuated over time. Usually, I don't really have much of a sex drive, and I'm pretty comfortable with that. A friend of mine suggested "gray A" asexuality, although I am not sure.

I wish! For the past year, my husband has been on medication that kills his libido. He has no interest in sex and says he has become "resigned" to it.

I have not. I am unhappy; I miss sex. There's a good chance he will have to be on this medication for the rest of his life. I wish I was asexual -- then I wasn't horny and miserable all the time!

On the other hand, my husband is extremely possessive of my sexuality and sexual behavior. He loses his temper in a scary way when other men show interest in me. He's very jealous, so I can't seek a sexual relationship outside of the marriage either. I would never, ever cheat on him unless he had said we could seek lovers outside the marriage, but I'm not even allowed to see women, much less me.

After a while, one just wants more than masturbation, especially if one is in a relationship where one used to have frequent, mind-blowing sex!

I have some symptoms of asexuality. For example, I don't really feel attraction to people sexually. I've never thought "wow, that person is really sexy". People often assume I'm being modest, but that's not the case. Sexual attraction is just something that I've never experienced.

On the other hand, I can feel attraction to someone once I get to know them in a romantic or intellectual manner. In that case, the "mechanism" works just fine and I'd go so far as to say that I enjoy sex.

Sometimes. My pain level determines my sex drive. Lots of pain = asexual. When I'm not in a lot of pain, I'm not.

I don't really feel attraction (romantic or sexual) to others, though.

No. I have thought it might be convenient if I did, though.

Usually my libido is very low and it's crossed my mind, but I look at women to much to honestly say I am.

I can't believe I'm saying this in public. But I have little interest in sex. I am extremely, extremely attracted to some men physically - I mean, the libido is there. But the desire for intimacy is NOT. It is hard for me to tolerate sexual contact. I always faked it. It's just a very difficult experience for me. I feel so exposed I want to scream and run. I cannot make direct eye contact with a lover. So. . . . I'm not exactly Asexual. But I'm celibate by choice, and happy with it.

I started taking in interest in the opposite as early as 5 years of age. I was boy crazy as a little girl. But as I got older, that begun getting suppressed by my self-consciousness from years of being bullied.

Once I stopped chasing the cute boys around the playground I got intensely interested in learning about sex, esp. reading textbooks on human sexuality, even if it didn't "click" in my head that I had a sex drive until much later. I think my libido was just expressing itself in a hyperlexic way since I was very body unaware when I was younger and so I tended to be oblivious to my physical drives. Also being depressed and suffering from PTSD from an early age probably kept me from "blossoming" sexually in a more normal way.

I didn't lose my virginity until after high school, but I had a steadily growing awareness of my sexual drives since I was about 18. I'd say i have a pretty solid sex drive. i don't think I'm hypersexual, just very aware now and I like having sex feelings. I think I do have a lot of sexual energy, which is why when I was younger and less self-aware of my sexual drives. I think I put out a stronger sexual vibe than I'm often aware of--that would certainly explain the why people sometimes react to me.

The only times I wasn't really feeling sexual was when i was very depressed or on either SSRIs or beta blockers. But other than that, I've pretty sexual.

The strange thing is that I'm not interested in having sex myself at all and in that sense often feel asexual. However, I fantasize a lot about sex every day and imagine fictional characters (that I've made up myself) having sex with each other and I get horny thinking about it, but never want to do it myself. I wonder if this has anything to do with me feeling like a guy in a female body. I enjoyed sex for the first few times that I did it and then got bored with it and stopped enjoying it.

I picked yes, all the time. Even though I am a virgin, I wasn't always asexual. I also don't know if I will be for the rest of my life. But right now, I am all the time.

Nope, my sex drive is quite active.

Sometimes I wonder...I can get sexually attracted to men but the thought of actually having sex fills me with anxiety about being used or getting pregnant. It's hard for me to imagine sex as pleasurable (yes, I am a virgin) since I don't like to be touched and I especially don't like being naked. I don't really have any desire to lose my virginity or explore my sexuality. But I am capable of falling in love and becoming emotionally attached to someone. Sometimes I wonder if, after a long time getting comfortable with someone, that I could feel close enough to a man to sleep with him. (FYI I have been in 2 relationships-one lasted a year and a half but we did not go beyond kissing and mild cuddling.) I wonder if I just have a lot of anxiety about being touched, or if I actually am asexual. Can you really say you don't like something if you've never been close to trying it?

No, I don't feel asexual. But it all depends on my mood, the circumstances and I have to feel really attracted to someone. I have made some mistakes in the past but that doesn't happen anymore these days. There are certain things that I won't allow or do because they make me feel very embarrased and self self conscious. I'm a bit of a prude. It's also difficult to switch my brain off and just let things happen.

I'm not the kind of person who likes to cuddle for hours on end or walk hand in hand down the street with someone. I'll always keep my distance to a certain extent. When I've been with someone for a couple of hours I need to be alone again.

No never . I Think my sex drive is too strong.