A Plea To The Ladies

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OK, a guy posting on the Women's Discussion Board might be a little out of order but this is my first time here and I promise not to look at any of the posts

I need a favor.

At the bottom of the Wrong Planet home page you'll see a little logo for something called 'Aspie Affection', it's a singles site run (I think) by the same people who bring us Wrong planet. The problem is that there are four or five guys for every gal so a lot of us are going to be disappointed. Please, if you're single, think seriously about signing up and let's see if we can get more ladies on there. I can't speak for the rest of the guys but I promise to be good.

Thank you.

Vanilla_Slice

Well, Vanilla_Slice, I once had an account there. I got lots and lots of views of my profile, but not one guy would contact me. And then, for the longest time, the site wasn't being maintained, and there were numerous annoying glitches that finally drove me away. And then, I couldn't take my profile down! So that's why I don't use Aspie Affection.

You get cool points for being the only guy brave enough to ask for dates in the women's section, you just don't get the cool points with the women

I've been put up to something like this, I had a bunch of guys trying to get me to ask the female medic out (the plan was I let them take over), I really wasn't feeling it and she ended up with some other guy, can't say it bothered me, I still don't get why they we're so attracted to her.

I think it's a futile concept. Aspies are too few and far between, and I get the impression that Aspie men (at least the kind who would use such a site) are generally not liked by most Aspie women anyway.

Alot of the women here are married, taken or just not looking to date men or at all. I might be off on this but it's something I've noticed reading this forum.

I think 'not liked' is a bit harsh - but I see how you might have arrived at that conclusion.
From my experience aspie men differ greatly from aspie women and it's simply not a match made in heaven. An aspie guy I know (undiagnosed, but definitely aspie) is very needy, insecure and intense. For me, that's not what I need. I know all aspie men aren't going to be like that but it just seems to come across that way to me - that aspie men are more aspie than women. I hope that makes sense

It's much like a normal relationship - sometimes you clash, sometimes you don't. The ones who don't are usually the husbands/wives/life-partners you see every day.

There's just a bit more to it when it comes to Asperger's - it must not clash, or else it wont work, AS WELL AS the normal personality traits.

I thought about putting myself up there.

But I find myself physically repulsive and have trouble with online relationships.

Also I think men with aspergers outnumber women with aspergers....or at least that's what I hear a lot.

Sorry, got a bf, and not interested in the awkwardness of online dating. You don't get the same feelings online as you do in person, and I get rather distant with people online. Plus, I'm more into girls than guys anyways, so if there are that few women, it wouldn't be in my best interest.

Diagnosed, yes. But only because it is recognised more in men than women.

I am rather convinced that it's because women are under so much pressure to conform, firstly by Mother and then Society.
Or does that, maybe mean it's to do with some unusual level of certain hormones in women with AS?
I never figured this out but gender difference only seems to point at male hormone dominance?
did anyone do some research on this?

Taken, but wouldn't join anyway. I don't like dating sites because I disagree with the concept of 'looking for love.' I think when you go out looking, you're going to be finding things that may not be true... because you are looking for them. Imo it is much better to get to know people without any thought of romance and have it just happen after you get to know them or to just 'click' with a particular person.

But that's just my opinion. I'm sure tons of people will ridicule me for it. *shrug*

That is simply not true and I have witnessed the untrueness of it on many occasions.