Should I feel embarrased/ashamed?

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in a rare act of social-ness, I was chatting with a guy about 12 years my junior about herbal alternatives to the pills he is addicted to, and I gave him some bags of some of the herbal blends that my business sells that I thought might take the edge off the craving for the pharmaceuticals.
I could not help but notice something that may have been "raised eyebrows" regarding my talking to him...and i also sorta realized that maybe he really didn't care about the "herbal alternatives"...as he interrupted my babbling to ask for a beer and that is the last I spoke to him.....anywhoo..I feel embarrased for some reason...like maybe people thought I was flirting with him..or maybe he thought I was flirting with him...just by talking to him...I eventually disappeared till he left..

I am getting to the age where I guess my saying' more than a few words to these guys who are always around who are at least a decade younger than me might make me seem "cougery"....

I have always had very little sense of how I appear to others...and so I guess I am feeling a wee tad embarrassed about the whole thing,,,
My potentially having seemed like I was flirting and giving this much-younger-than-me guy the creeps....gives me the creeps...

Sounds to me like you were just trying to be helpful. If everyone else failed to get that then that's on them not you. If he accepted whatever you gave him though then he had to be atleast somewhat interested in what you were saying... perhaps he just got tired of the subject or was thirsty. Either way, don't beat yourself up over it.

You don't sound as if you were flirting with him. The people around you may have thought you were trying to make a sale, or trying to convert him to alternative medicine, but I doubt that they thought you were trying to chat him up. When you're geninely interested in a subject, it shows.

I don't think cougar fits in til after 40. And even then it's your prerogative. I hate having my motives misunderstood though. Maybe the onlookers were just jealous.