Tired of mainstream image?

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Don't you find it annoying that everywhere you go you have to see a sensual or erotic picture every day? Or that it almost seems that you're expected to be thin, attractive, and sexy ALL THE FRICKING TIME?!

Well, I am. I'm an overweight Aspergian (female), and I resort to covering myself with jeans and long shirts. For what seems a century or more, there are advertisements, songs, movies, etc that are bombarding everyone. In my opinion, we're all becoming sex crazed Homo sapiens.

Let me hear some replies. Are you tired of it, too? Or do you accept the exploiting?

I have a question: do you want to date a obese guy?

PS: yes, women are thinner nowdays but aphrodite would be considered pretty (not supermodel though) in present times.

For some reason, it doesn't matter to me what a guy looks like. He can be as skinny or as overweight as he wants, but this is getting off topic.

well beauty was always popular however now it is more the norm along with cleanness and proper dressing due to the wealth (in comparison to the ancient times of course).
with that said, no i don't mind that society is into it but i do mind that the planet gets polluted due to us washing our hair.

Why do that? dressing in clothes that are loose and hang off of you does your body no justice. be proud of your figure, because in reality, most women don't look like those size 2 models the media and hollywood bombards us with. by health charts, i'm a few pounds "overweight", but i'm a size 8/10, and i wear my size, and i like the way i look in my clothes (as well as guys).

Um...by overweight I mean I'm five pounds close to being 200 pounds, and I'm sure no one wants to see a beer-less beer belly and beer-less gut on a girl.

well, you can still dress up nicely. stores like target, kmart, and old navy have cute clothes at good prices that go up to like a size 24. and most accessories are not size specific and can go a long way. just saying.

well if you don't mind guys who are overweight maybe some guys wouldn't mind a girl who is 200 p. hm, it seems that you have a problem with your weight. it is not the societys fault.

The whole point of being an aspie is to not care about this kind of garbage.

It's up to you to care or not, but for me, I'm getting tired of seeing it.

"Mainstream images" are all crap that society wants people to be "controlled" by. I ignore the mainstream, always have, always will. It's just not me.

The constant sexualisation of woman does annoy me. I don't feel much peer pressure to act like the poster models, but when other people (guys esp.) think it's okay to put me down and refer to me as if I were some kind of object, it really pisses me off.

It annoys me, but only when people go on about it as if it is the secret to life. Most of the time, it doesn't really matter to me at all. I can't be bothered with it to be honest.

I don't like it, not because I don't want to be expected to be that way myself but because I think it does bad things to us. I think it desensitizes us for our partner. I think it puts body image issues on our youth. I think it creates an entire indurstry where young people who model are practicly prostituting their looks as much as a porn model just to sell food, clothing, or daily services in an add. These adds on billboards and in malls are embarrasing for mother and teen son to pass by together, it isn't right for a child to see a woman in her underwear 12 feet tall at Victoria Secret rather than it be something special when he discovers sexuality later on. Just my humble opinion. I am old fashioned, but not because I haven't tried the total opposite road in my youth. I know how the other half lives though I am now happily married with four children. I feel my own coming of age and finding of sexuality would have been enhansend without these images. I think they ruined my young partners to appreciate me though I was chubby in my upper teens I was still very sexy and volumtuous. I was not apprecaiated b/c I didn't fit this norm, so I guess that did hurt me in my past but not so much now b/c I am in a loving, commited realtionship. Also it helps that I am now a size 0 to 2 after much hard work and having 4 c-sections and babes! I still think, though I am thin, I don't fit this of course, because I have stretch marks, surgery scars, ect. I like my body the way it is. I don't like that the images we are bombarded with aren't even real. The models themselves will tell you about the airbrushing. This is something I could go on and on about.... though I find the woman form beautiful, I'd like to take it back to the art gallery in a much more tasteful setting than every time you turn around with your family with you. Just inappropriate, rude in my face, and just... eeew.

It seems that the mainstream crap that we are constantly fed...even if we try to avoid it....has done loads of damage to my self-esteem...
I have struggled with my weight and personal appearance for most of my life...and being overweight added to the burden of all my other difficulties...At times it felt like that was my main problem, and if I had somehow managed to morph my body into one that was more "socially acceptable"...all my other issues would change too....

I really would not have minded how I looked so much if i hadn't been constantly reminded that there was something wrong with my appearance...by my family and by the media....It makes me sometimes feel like I am not a real female..because I will never look like the ideal...I will always feel negative about how I look....no matter what...it is how I am programmed.

As far as my partners go...my main partner Flakey has a healthy taste in regards of what qualities he is attracted to in a woman. He values unconventional beauty and doesn't mind a girl with some meat on her bones...He constantly tries to boost my self image..

My other partner is kinda skewed by living alone and watching the sci-fi channel for so long and really values an ectomorphic physique....very thin and athletic...but he himself is very very thin, and he has gender identity issues, and part of it is that he envies them for being the woman that he feels like he is on the inside...He likes female versions of himself...so that uh...kinda hurts my self image a little bit.... ..
but he doesn't mean to....He did start seeing me when I was about 20 lbs heavier than I am now...much shorter than him and outweighing him by 30 lbs...Surely he can't find me completely unattractive...

I find it.... funny. Not ha-ha funny. More like.... dark funny.
When I was younger (think elementary school through middle school-ish)... it made me -want- to be -fat-. I thought I had it all figured out, you see: I would get reeeeaaaallllly fat, and then I'd move to Alaska or something. Fat would keep me warm, and there'd be less people to shove all this skinnny-skinny-skinnnnnnyyyyyy nonsense in my face.
(I laugh at my younger self. What was I thinking?).
High-school-ish; typical self hatred. I'm fat, I'm ugly, oh-woe-is-me.

Now.... I'm mostly indifferent towards my weight. I just don't care most days.

I think... fat looks good on some people, and not on others.... just like... well, anything else.