A Question on Normal Men & AS Women

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i wasn't sure if this was a smart move in my part, nor was i sure where to place this topic.
i just wrote this question on Yahoo Answers asking opinions of what men would do if they met an Aspie girl. the answers that i got where mind-boggling to me. here's the link:

Yahoo Answers - Men & AS Women

what's everyone's take on this?

I didn't like lot of the responses there. I only liked the first one.

But the last one was contradicting. He says if she was his wife, he'll be so sad but if she were his girlfriend, he would still love her. So why would he be sad if she were his wife but wouldn't be sad if she were his girlfriend?

But put it this way, she spills the beans and the man runs, at least she got that out of the way and she can move onto another guy and not waste her time with the wrong man.

I told my husband when we met online and he took it well. He just wanted to know what it was because he never heard of it so he asked his online friend about it and she said it was just a form of autism and he was like "oh okay" and thought nothing of it. She did give him a paper to read on it she did for her class and I gave him the book Pretending to Be Normal to read.

The question does not contain enough information for the un-informed answerers to respond to.

The question is way too generalised and so the response is horribly generalised.

Wow- a lot of those people sound like completely uninformed jerks. :/

The one who posted a loose definition of AS (probably did look it up then) stated that he'd break off a /friendship/, which is messed up.

I know it may frighten away people who could learn to appreciate AS and its differences, but there is a reason why I don't really hide the diagnosis. Plus, most people see me as bitchy, not as socially disabled. This can be a good thing in some situations, but not so much if you're trying to make friend. So disclosing early on is a big deal for me because I do'nt want people to misread me as often as I misread them.

If I can get that far along in a friendship with someone, then I'll think about something more. If they haven't stuck around to that point, I know not to risk anything more serious.

I was diagnosed when I was already going out with my now husband.

I came back fro the diagnosis and told him, more confessed, as I was very afraid. But he looked at me like he had no idea what the fuss was about. He said that having a name for it didn't make me a different person than I had been the day before, and that he didn't know why I was making a fuss about it. Just that it would be useful to know in future.

I loved that thought and remember it a lot, and it is something anyone telling boyfriends should remember. It doesn't make you a different person than you were the day before you told them!!