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Women, have you ever bought your men jewelry or a wedding ring or been the one who did the proposing.

I just had a funny scenario in my head which was loosely based on a true story:

I see this guy and notices his big silver ring and then comment how great it looks on him. He says: "Thankyou hun, it's my engagement ring! My wife proposed to me just last tuesday for our wedding. I'm so excited! Now I got to worry about what kind of suit to buy, get a good shaving, make a list of who to invite, tell my friends asap, find out what we need, look for the perfect wedding cake, consult my wife in what theme we should have our wedding in. You know...I was sort of thinking like a heavy metal look with all my heroic icons on walls with matching guitars hanging above our podium. Maybe even a black wedding cake!!

What do you think...oh and how do you like these flowers? Aren't they beautiful! I think I may have found the one!!"

I actually met a guy almost like this when I was working at a restaurant...I kid you not...

So my question is women have you ever bought your husband/boyfriend a ring or done the proposing or found them to get enthusiastic whenever you bought them candy or boxers?

Last edited by MissConstrue on 19 Jan 2010, 7:19 pm, edited 1 time in total.

No, never...

That is funny.

My first engagement, my ex-fiancee proposed to me. In both that instance and before I got married last year, I wore an engagement band. That is, however, about the extent of the comparison for me as the symbol made me happy but did not inspire lengthy thought about what came next in terms of logistics.


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I actually proposed to my now husband!!

Although in all fairness it was less of a proposal than a "would you maybe one day like to marry me" type of things (more a thinking out loud than anything). It was very spare of the moment and had little thought behind but he said yes and so it was!

He then brought me a ring and got down on one knee very shortly after that and we were engaged.

Also I'll just add that we've been married now for almost 13 years.

Last edited by Robin_Hood on 21 Jan 2010, 5:55 am, edited 1 time in total.

I'm curious as to whether this was a proposal or a renewal-of-vows kind of thing? If it was his wife that proposed, then weren't they already married? Plus the whole "now I have to do this stuff" combined with the black wedding cake, heavy metal theme.. Maybe it was a second wedding, like "his turn" go get to plan to big party his way? Possibly as some kind of apology for having been a bridezilla type?

My bf likes it when I buy him sweets, but I'd never be the one to propose. My mum asked my dad out and proposed to him too; according to her, they had an agreement to get married after travelling for a year.

According to him, she started looking at rings and he bought her one to keep her happy and was then shocked when she started claiming she was engaged (his actual response was 'she is, I'm not!') ... so er, after hearing that I decided, 21st century or not, I am not going to propose!

That's funny that because the guy gets proposed to, he gets to pick out all the details of the wedding...
And then I bet his dad gets to pay for it too...

uh, well i did. sometimes i regret it though since my husbands character is indecisive so i can never tell if he really wanted it. we did dated for 5 years already at that time in my defense.
we are not really that romantic so neither one expected formal proposition and we probably wouldn't even marry if we were not forced by the law (we were moving out of the country so to move together we needed to be married).
i never got engagement ring, and i payed half of the wedding expenses (my own wish).

Me and my husband sort of.. agreed to get married. And we picked out matching engagement rings and then we proposed to eachother in a very teary moment with alot of friends around us at a party no one knew was our engagement party.

And yeah I have bought him jewlery after that too. I bought him a leather strapped necklace with a silver "charm" on it, a wrist watch.. I have bought him a pretty cufflink and tie pin set once. Such things. I dont think he feels immasculated tho (or whatever the word is) and he showers me with alot more bling that I do him!

Wow. He sounds dreamy, hehe. Even though I'm really "old-fashioned" in a lot of ways, I love androgyny and "gender bending" as they're calling it today.

I love egalitarianism in relationships, and sort of switching gender roles as we please.

That said, every androgynous-ish boyfriend I've had wouldn't have liked me to be the one proposing, with them simply accepting . . .




I'll admit that I've been engaged 3 times (really embarrassing, I know). In the first instance, we discussed marriage, and the idea of getting married over a period of about 6 months until we were sure about it. Then he formally and quite romantically proposed to me. The second time, we discussed it, agreed on it, and mutually proposed to each other. Didn't go for rings or formality because we just didn't see it as necessary. The third time, the guy proposed to me a couple of times before I accepted. Once I had accepted, we practiced proposing to each other. Then he made a formal proposal / announcement at his birthday party, at which he put the ring on my finger. It was very romantic. I guess one could say that we're still engaged, but life became complicated beyond our control and it tore us apart.

In that (most recent) relationship, my fiance wore more jewelry than I did, and he was into collecting and arranging flowers. I used to gather flowers and give them to him.

In another serious relationship (which had more traditional gender roles yet no talk of marriage), I used to enjoy taking him out on dates. We also bought each other presents - always stuff we both liked, like records. So there was an equal exchange of romantic gestures like that.

Although I like for things to even out, I am kind of a dominant woman in relationships. I'm passive in some ways, and enjoy having attention lavished on me by a bf, but I really love it when a guy prefers for me to take the lead. I enjoy the feeling of pursuing a guy I'm attracted to. I enjoy giving a guy flowers, or (better) something he'll really appreciate due to some unique thing that we have in common . . .

I'm going to refrain from divulging more here because I like the romantic nature of secrets between lovers being kept as well-guarded secrets, no matter how long ago it was or how it ended.