Body Image

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Lately I've been having a lot of problems with my body confidence and image after being insulted for it multiple times. Once was at a McDonald's where I was trying to recognize the cashier at the drive thru, who was very obese. He decided to call me a 'f*cking fat freak' and threw my food at me and then called me piggy. Also, a couple of years ago I gave a guy I'd known since high school a chance to take me to the movies, and he also was obese and had a unibrow to go with it. He tried to make sure I didn't eat anything there (I just paid for my food) and told me I should look like Megan Fox throughout the whole movie (it was Transformers 2). A few weeks later I saw him at the local beach and tried to make a scene about my poochy belly. I was 5'9" and 155 lbs at the time of those incidents, but they still scar me some.

I was wondering how everyone else's body image was...

Seems like these guys are projecting their own insecurities on to you. The drive thru guy may have misinterpreted how you were looking at him. You can't look at some people 1 second too long without an angry reaction, probably because they've already taken a lot of abuse and assume the worst. Your old friend sounds like he's protecting his own ego by having unrealistic expectations. I knew this guy who would always comment on whether my weight was up or down whenever I ran into him. I wanted to tell him he should carry some scales around with him so he's know whether he approved of people or not. I wouldn't think at your height and weight you would be considered fat.

terrible!

WTF? At 5'9 you are a normal weight, certainly not fat. That guy is a piece of crap.

I voted OK. I like my body but would like to be taller and have smaller boobs. I hate having 32DDs. Partly they feel too big and intrusive and make me feel ungainly, and partly social stuff too...I feel uneasy turning up to a martial arts class full of guys in a sports top with the shape of my freaking giant boobs visible. I also go to a parkour/freerunning class which is entirely male except for me, and I love it, but wish I could leave my damn boobs at the door. I know those guys are cool and would never try and do something sexual to me, but ngh...I feel like I'm asking for the wrong kind of attention. I actually went up and apologized to my trainer for wearing just my X-shaped sports top and combat pants, and explained that I have a really high metabolism and can't help overheating. I'm not sure if that was socially appropriate, but it seemed like the right thing to do. He said it was okay, anyways.

I like mine.

And your not fat, why would you listen to someone who is fatter then you? There jealous.

Last edited by Kat15 on 15 Jul 2010, 4:00 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I get this from skinny people too, albeit they weren't as rude about it as the people I mentioned above. It was really bad one time when I went to a wedding and was berated by all the women there as I was the heaviest woman at the reception who wasn't pregnant. I honestly think I just have an unfortunate body type (apple) because I've also gotten the 'Are you pregnant?' from no less than 4 different people... one stranger even touched my tummy and asked if it was twins. So it's not one isolated incident.

I find that people do the exact same thing regards my thin body type. I've even had a (very overweight) friend tell me she worried about me. I think such people are just externalizing their own negative body image.

That's probably true... I live in a small town full of rednecks. And the guys in the area have run with the fat man-bombshell wife stereotype in sitcoms and expect women to look like a model or they berate them. That's why most married women I know are always on a strict diet for their 'man', but the guy is overweight and gets drunk regularly. It's sickening that this happens in a small town; I can't imagine how bad this must be in bigger cities.

I just wish their body criticism and 'are you pregnant?' remarks wouldn't bother me so much.

Clumsybee, your height and weight are fine. This will sound harsh, but when a guy belittles you like that you need to be very assertive and tell him to go f**k himself. I'm not kidding. Clearly they're insecure, but you have to put forth an energy that won't tolerate that kind of degradation, too. You are the only one who can stop them from talking like that. Same thing goes for the women you mentioned. You may have to temper it somehow, especially if they're women in your family or whatever, but you can be firm yet loving.

I feel nearly suicidal every day because of my body image. I don't want to be a man anymore =(

I do have the impression that when people critisise your body shape they are basically projecting their negative image of themselves onto you.
( I feel like my mother tells me and my sisters to lose weight because she feels she needs to)

But I feel like others make insults re body shape because they are jerks or complete simpletons that think people are supposed to look like those airbrushed pictures in the media.
eg I was waiting for a train and some school kid looks at me and says "eww fat b*&&h" and the other kid with him says "What the hell?" which is exactly what I was thinking.

I voted OK, I have size 16E breasts and they cause back pain sometimes.

To be honest, I rarely think about it. I'm not a visual thinker..do I even have a body image? I don't know, I do think I'd like to be taller, but I am reasonably satisfied with myself. I can walk and everything BMI is in the mid normal range? I guess. I don't know how reliable that test is. For the record, I have zero muscle definition

I always think I'm too skinny. I know its not common. I am 16, 5 ft 5, and weigh high 80's to low 90's. People say I'm anorexic or have eating disorders. I try not to let it bother me, because I know the truth is that I eat alot of healthy foods and am healthy overall, and people really get to me sometimes. My mom says I'm lucky I can eat whatever I want. I also just started developing, so I have been called flat or even hermaphrodite. But I don't let that get to me at all. Some peopel are weird Overall, I would say I have a pretty good body image.

*Remember- you are who you are and you are who you're meant to be*