04 Sep 2009, 8:23 pm
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10 Sep 2009, 12:59 pm
I don't label myself a Lesbian, although I am in a Lesbian relationship.
I'm genderqueer myself, I just do things the way I do them, whether my method is "masculine" or "feminine" doesn't really occur to me.
There are very few people that I meet and think, "OMG I wanna f**k you" - and when I do, they're usually someone who transcends gender in some fashion - Women who don't need to be feminine in all things and are true to themselves, or men who aren't afraid to swish a bit. I'm a sucker for a girl with a shaved head.
There's also a fine line between confident/cocky where it goes from attraction to revulsion. I like someone who is confident and content in themselves - a small amount of arrogance is sexy - but it has to be just a pinch.
It's probably not surprising that I've dated 2 drag queens.
My Fiance is fairly feminine, but she's a radio engineer (a very male dominated field), she clips her nails with wire cutters, there's usually more then a few tools in her purse, and she's definitely the "fix-it" person around this house.
Anyways - time to get back to doing the dishes! 
10 Sep 2009, 11:42 pm
I'm genderqueer myself, I just do things the way I do them, whether my method is "masculine" or "feminine" doesn't really occur to me.
There are very few people that I meet and think, "OMG I wanna f**k you" - and when I do, they're usually someone who transcends gender in some fashion - Women who don't need to be feminine in all things and are true to themselves, or men who aren't afraid to swish a bit. I'm a sucker for a girl with a shaved head.
There's also a fine line between confident/cocky where it goes from attraction to revulsion. I like someone who is confident and content in themselves - a small amount of arrogance is sexy - but it has to be just a pinch.
It's probably not surprising that I've dated 2 drag queens.
My Fiance is fairly feminine, but she's a radio engineer (a very male dominated field), she clips her nails with wire cutters, there's usually more then a few tools in her purse, and she's definitely the "fix-it" person around this house.
Anyways - time to get back to doing the dishes!
Wow, you have a very perceptional and interesting view in the matters of attraction and gender. I always find mine hard to describe b/c I can't really point out the particulars unless I'm aware of them.....which half the time I'm not lol.
11 Sep 2009, 1:29 pm
I'm genderqueer myself, I just do things the way I do them, whether my method is "masculine" or "feminine" doesn't really occur to me.
There are very few people that I meet and think, "OMG I wanna f**k you" - and when I do, they're usually someone who transcends gender in some fashion - Women who don't need to be feminine in all things and are true to themselves, or men who aren't afraid to swish a bit. I'm a sucker for a girl with a shaved head.
There's also a fine line between confident/cocky where it goes from attraction to revulsion. I like someone who is confident and content in themselves - a small amount of arrogance is sexy - but it has to be just a pinch.
It's probably not surprising that I've dated 2 drag queens.
My Fiance is fairly feminine, but she's a radio engineer (a very male dominated field), she clips her nails with wire cutters, there's usually more then a few tools in her purse, and she's definitely the "fix-it" person around this house.
Anyways - time to get back to doing the dishes!
Wow, you have a very perceptional and interesting view in the matters of attraction and gender. I always find mine hard to describe b/c I can't really point out the particulars unless I'm aware of them.....which half the time I'm not lol.
I wasn't always aware of why I was attracted to certain people, or why my conception of hotness was so skewed from what I perceived to be normal for most people.
I think all the internal reflection I went through regarding Gender, Identity and Sexuality as I was sorting out my feelings after I came out as trans is the primary reason I can actually define what attracts me.
That and the years I spent trying to figure out why the girls I found myself attracted to kept turning out to be Lesbians.
I guess what I'm saying is I spent many years confused about who I was, and about who I was attracted to. It wasn't until I looked inside and saw who I really was that I was able to connect the dots about the people I've been attracted to, and identify the common traits.
Which comes back to the old platitude - you can't love someone else until you love yourself. It's cliche, but in my case it's true - I had to accept myself before I felt worthy of allowing someone to love me.
ok, I'm off on a *bit* of a tangent with this one.
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26 Apr 2010, 10:22 pm
It seems the women I am attracted to are androgynous, artistic/creative, and intellectual/bookish types. My past girlfriends have been an artist, singer/song-writer/performer and a journalist/writer. They have all been "Lesbians" and very similar to the men I have married or dated. I'm very rarely attracted to anyone. But when I am, it's magical. 
