Aspie Women and Our Emotions

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Hi! Do any of you guys feel that because we are women with asperger syndrome, that our emotions ae incntrollable at times. Like in relationships do you feel like you are the more sensitive partner always taking criticism to heart. Do you also feel like you want to be able to know almost everything about your partner. Would any of you guys be offended if your partner stopped you from reading any of his messages, just to delete some of them. Not that I trust him, but I feel a little insecure about things such as people finding out that I am the wrong girlfriend because I do the wrong things such as have anxiety attacks and have trouble reacting to my emotions appropriately at times. Is it just me or do all of us (women with (aspergers) have some trouble with these issues such as controlling our reations to emotions, anxiety and insecureness.

Sometimes i feel like I cannot even control my emotions because they change too quickly a lot of other times I don't even understand the emotions. I will get suicidal thoughts whenever I get angry or upset, but I will not actually kill myself. I feel like I am stuk in an emotional cage and I hate it.

things improved for me as I got older. I hope they do for you, too.

This absolutely described me in younger relationships (though I have never had suicidal thoughts - be careful with that.) As socially awkward as I am, I was very pretty and always had plenty of boys interested in me, so getting into relationships was relatively easy. But I had extreme emotions, they were confusing to me, and I was insecure and distrustful. I had a loving, wonderful upbringing so there are no childhood factors that would have made me insecure or distrustful of men. I really think it came down to theory of mind and communication difficulties. And, I became obsessive about my boyfriends.

Got much better as I got older. My marriage is fine, though I married another Aspie so we understand each other a bit better. And when they say aspies mature more slowly - we do, but we catch up eventually. I grew out of a lot of that in my 30s.

Good luck.

I used to have no fear or insecurity in relationships at all - if anything I was terribly naive - but learned to fear from being burned. I tend not to obsess or pry, though, and withdraw instead when anxious or fearful.

I am better than I was 5 years ago, hopefully I will keep improving with age

I was like that with my first boyfriend. Not jealous or possessive, just out-of-control emotionally. I haven't been like that since. I guess no-one has messed me about as much as he did, though.